Death threats from my brother

[Miss Random]

My mother has NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and my brother is the 'golden one', so I am the 'scape-goat'.
I have received death threat texts from my brother (which I reported to the police, and they had a word with him), but tonight I received through Friends Re-united, as he doesn't have my email address, further threats.
It was a vile venomous email full of lies and threats.

I think he is a Psychopath, which I believe can be the result of an NPD parent.

Has anyone else had experience of this awful condition?

[sunflower71]

no offence but are you russian?

My boss has this disorder, she really does.
It effects the people around them of course but i think the death threats are a bit far, thats not right.

is there more history to this?

[dot.hawkes]

sounds extreme, why would he be annoyed at you if he is the golden child? what has he got to be miffed about?

[legend758duo]

no shes not russian.

i think you will find this is a serious post.

[Miss Random]

No I'm english.

There is more history to this than I can possibly post, 40 odd years worth.

We grew up with a single (ex hooker) mother and he was a sickly child, so quite spoiled. I was always the one that had to take the blame for anything that went wrong.
I worked hard bought properties and got married and had a daughter that I would do anything and everything for.
He always felt the world owed him a living, he has 3 children that he has nothing to do with and has never given a penny to.
He recently found out what I was selling one of my properties for and has hit the roof, claiming that I have got everything by illgotten gains. His jealousy of me has pushed him into thinking he needs to kill me.

I am at a loss. We are only half brothers (mother was liberal with her favours), I only found out who my father was a year ago!

If anyone has some 'good' advice I would really appreciate it.

[Bewlay Bros]

Oh dear, what an awful life you have.

Bless your heart. X

[PatriciaH]

Sorry to ask this but youve said you are only half brothers yet you post as " miss Random" ?

[sunflower71]

oh dear miss random, i am sorry.
this is an awful situation for you to be in.
have you told the police again?
i cannot offer any guidance only sympathy.

[Louisa 69]

I would get back in touch with the police regarding these new threats. Can't you have a word with your mum maybe she can talk to your brother on your behalf ??

[dot.hawkes]

Basically I think he should butt out of your life, he has no right to interfere in your selling the house, he's using his so called illness to cover up his disapointment at the failings of his own life. Sell up and move away from him, keep him away from your family he has lost any right to call you his family

[Miss Random]

Well don't mean to sound sarcastic Patricia, but what has my posting name got to do with it?
Believe it or not, Random is not either our family name nor my married name. Have been divorced for 15 years so chose anyoldname! Not the first to do so, and I'm sure I will not be the last.....

What exactly was your point?

[dot.hawkes]

I think Trish meant you said in your answer you were 'half -brothers' implying you are both male but you use 'Miss' in your user name, that's how i read it too, it does impact on the responses too knowing you are male.

[Miss Random]

Thanks dotty,
I don't even live in the same country as him, my (now disowned bit ch of a mother has obviously informed him of this).
Have had no contact with either of them since I attempted suicide in March...... they just wont let it go. Think they can push me back into it,,,,,

[dot.hawkes]

push you back into what? If you are not in touch with them other than via a web site they aren't gonna get very far, but maybe they know how to mentally abuse you by usinmg such sites. You should delete your membership of FR and keep your email private

[Miss Random]

Sorry Patricia, I am his sister, when I said half brothers... I meant half brother.

I am female and the eldest ..... though in my family it is debatable as I have since discovered there is an older brother that my mother gave up for adoption. It is all so messy.

Why cant parents just have children with one spouse? Or at least if they don't have some idea of the genetic pool they are dipping into?

[cruella]

I agree with Dot.
Unsubscribe to friends reunited so that this half Brother can no longer contact you.
Don't give out your email address or home address.
He obviously feels the world owes him a living.
You don't need threats like that in your life, especially from a member of your family.
Cut all family ties and don't go reading what he is writing about you. Good Luck.

[megan07]

Hi Miss R, i am so sorry to hear what you are going through, i would still inform the police, donot delete what is on your computer, as this is evidence.
I am thinking of you, take good care, your geordie friend, megan. xxxxxxxx

[megan07]

I agree with Dot, do delete, but if you are going to inform the police keep it on your screen, or print it off, love megan. xx

[bigmamma]

Miss Random honey , I had no idea you were going through all this sweetie, I can only say , please look after yourself , take all your threats proof to the police again and maybe you could get to see someone who can advise you , like the Citizens Advice Bureau , or a police councillor .
Take care :-) xxx

[fairkatrina]

The only way you're going to break their hold over you is to take a big sigh and let it go. You sound like you've got a decent life now, so why let them wreck it from afar? A nasty email isn't nice, but it isn't the end of the world.

[sense4all]

Honestly, you have to distance yourself from them and stay apart. I have met some very different 'families' over the years. One had a 'responsible' sibling and they all expected her to pick up the litany of emotional debris they caused all over the world. It is time to save yourself - do not feel bad about this - their problems are exactly that ... caused by themselves. Keep the Police informed of any developments ... and try to lead an independent happy life, you deserve it.