my rights

[loveME]

I am 16, my friend who is 19 with a 4 month baby, has asked me to move in with her when she gets her house, can i do this? and how much would i have to pay?

[redcrx]

What do you mean by 'my rights'?

if your friend is being housed by a housing association or the council then Im sure that only her and her dependants (ie her child) will be allowed to live there.

[loveME]

well the house would be hers, she has asked me to move in with her ..... but can this be done?

[redcrx]

ah so shes bought her own house?

[4getmenot]

or do you mean its council and are you allowed to move in and is she allowed to take money for it

[busta233]

yes it can be done - but how are you going to pay her when you are going to leave school without doing your exams. No job - no money. You don't get benefits till you are 19 - 1and your friend will soon get fed up of you sponging off her and throw you out. You need to look at your life closely.

[loveME]

no it will be a council house. if i was to leave school now, i would get a job and pay my way. also the council gives money to who ever looks after her child when she goes to work .... thats if she decides to go back.

[4getmenot]

she cant take board and also she has to say you are living there

[redcrx]

not to whoever! the government pay tax credits to her but only if she is using a registered child minder and even then it will just be a percentage of what it costs.

I really dont think that she can move anyone into her council house. ask her to check with the council before you take this idea further.

[gina32]

the governement doesnt just give money to anyone who looks after her child when she goes back to work, to receive money from the government for childminding you have to be registered, the payment isnt very good either, and it isnt just done overnight, i think you are very disallusioned and as was said before you should be taking a good long look at your life, jobs without qualifications or experience with good pay arent that easy to come by and certainly not for a 16 year old, it isnt going to be the bed of roses that i think you imagine it is going to be

[loveME]

the council said to her if you are uncomfortable having a stranger looking after your child then a friend or family member can do this and we will pay them for you. My friend said i can move in with her and i dont have to pay my way but i am not prepared to do this. we are very close i have known her for a long time.

[loveME]

i dont think its going to be a bed of roses nothing is in life, but when you want to do something in life you should fight for it as you only live once

[gina32]

sorry redcrx, i was obviously typing when you posted your answer.

[redcrx]

the council dont pay for childminding. its done via tax credits from the government as i said.

I think your friend needs all this in writing before she does anything as either she has been misinformed or has misunderstood.

[busta233]

Read gina32 reply and take it in - she speaks sense and that is what you need now. Is there not a member of your close family you can talk to about this - you rreally need to sort this out and stay at school till you do. There are only 4 months left at school.

[redcrx]

s'ok gina. I think something like that needs to be confirmed by others.

[gina32]

at 16 your are still a child, you dont really know what you want although you may think you do, is being a childminder something that youve always wanted for yourself or is it just a way out of something?

[loveME]

well when my friend gets her house which should be after christmas i will let you know if i am living with her or not and how i am getting on and i assure you i will not be sponging of her

[4getmenot]

What is the problem with school? What about your family?

[loveME]

i love children both of my sisters have children i get on great with them i also help my friend and her sister with their babys..... my friend although she is nineteen she doesnt know alot im not saying i do but i am a big help to her i have helped her through her pregnancy and i still help her now with her baby and her relationship

[redcrx]

why not stay on to take GCSEs and then see if you can do a childminder or nursery nurse course at 6th form, or college.

That way you will ensure you have a career to build on.