divorce........

[hotfemail]

i left my husband for another man last year. we are still together a year later but living apart as we have been told that if we live together both of our incomes would be taken into consideration when the settlement takes place. my boyfriend is paying generous maintenance for his daughter and all the bills for his house as his ex only works a few hours a week. we are struggling to run 2 rented properties.
can anyone advise me please ?
thank you

[bednobs]

you are trying to cheat the system. You are keeping your income artificially low so that you get more from your ex. What a lovely way to treat him! and all the time you are not having the benefit of iving with the person you love. My advice is to suck it in and live together if thats what you want to do and stop trying to "cheat" your ex husband again Who told you incidentally that your settlement would be reduced if you were living with someone?

[hotfemail]

atually bedknobs, you are totally wrong ! I have left my ex with everything and have agreed to a very reasonable settlement - much less than i would be entitled to !!!!! After dedicating my life, my income and my career to him and our children, with little or no thanks, my only sin was falling in love with someone who actually appreciated me !! So if trying to protect what little i have left (which incidentally is for my childrens future in case his girlfriend stakes a claim) is in your opinion cheating the system - then so be it. I suggest you dont make such a harsh judgement on something you know little about in future thankyou !

[Ethel]

I agree with bednobs in part. You are no doubt getting maintenance for the children from your husband but in any case your divorce settlement should not be affected by your current income, from whatever source.

You say you are asking for less thant you are entitled to so move in with your boyfriend now and cut your living expenses.

No doubt your boyfriend's ex is taking similar steps to protect her childrens interests from you as you are from your ex's girlfriend, What a palaver.

But in ancy case, you might as well move in with your boyfriend unless you are claiming maintenance for yourself from your ex

[happyjo]

Is your new boyfriend called Bill by any chance?? just out of curiosity???

[bednobs]

if you have already agreed to a reasonable settlement, then why not just move in with the man you love?
If its already less than you are entitled to, why not ask for more?
your ex husband will have to pay maintenance for the children, just as your boyfriend will. it will work out.
if everybody was limited to only replying to those posts talking about things they have experienced, you would never get any answers! perhaps instead of judging ME you could open your mind a little to what i am saying

[Mamjet]

hotfemail - i say good on you. Shag about as much as you want and have countless babies with different fathers - the state will always help you out in the long run.

[watteee]

get a conscience for god sake,i left my partner a few yrs ago now,we have a daughter,i didnt leave anyone else,ive always paid my way towards my daughter even though i get denied access from time to time,she lied to to get more dosh from me as she had moved someone in andkept it secret,even though a year later i met someone had a baby i was forking out through the nose,and i left everything to her in the house,started again with nothing,and still getting denied access,im not saying your doing this but do whats right,be honest,if you right your rght but if your wrong your wrong and it will bite you on the bum one day

[Mamjet]

Although judging how sexually promiscous you seem to be, being bitten on the bum is probably the type of thing that you enjoy.