Headstone dispute

[bigbob991]

When my father died he left no will and had no money or assets he did have an insurance policy for �500 that went towards the cost of his funeral. The total cost was just over �2,000 which his ex wife (the divorce papers went through one week before he died ) and two children paid. He is buried in a counsil cemetery in Scotland,the plot was bought 10 years ago by him and his now ex wife as a double plot for the two of them and she still wishes to be buried there when her time comes. Now my aunt (my fathers sister) has ordered and paid for a headstone but has not included ours or my fathers dads names on it can we stop the headstone from being erected until this problem has been resolved.

[CheekyChops]

I would imagine that as you don't own the plot and are not paying for the headstone, then you have no right over what goes on it.

[Skyline D]

I would presume though Cheeky that the question is one of whether or not the mother DOES own the plot?

Are you saying for sure she doesn't? Because that's what they are asking I think.

[dot.hawkes]

Your Aunt cannot erect the stone on a grave that was bought by your dad and his ex wife. Why has she decided to interfere? What is she going to put on it? Just that it is her brother? I don;t understand her motive here, certainlly it sounds a selfish and pointless thing to do.

[dot.hawkes]

Not sure which local authority you need but check out this one
http://www.scotborders.gov.uk/life/livingandso cialcare/death/Funerals/22763.html

I am not sure why you need your name on the stone, why is she not putting ' loving husband , father, son and brother' on it? It is not usual to put anyone else's name on a stone unless it is say, mary, wife of John Smith' or mary, daughter of mary and Ann Smith' but actrually even that is more of an ancient style now.

Ring the local authority and ask their advice.

[bigbob991]

Thanks dot.hawkes
The reason she is interfering is because she is blaming our mother for his death because of the divorce (he died of cancer) but he was still dearly loved by all of us. And all his
sister is trying to put on the headstone is , his name, son of, his mothers name, Like he never had no one, All we want is like you said loving husband , father, son and brother', that would be fine.
Once again i thank you and everyone for their kind replies