Sara bitter isn't the word . In fact i find it rather comical to a point . Both women and men are to blame and it seems to me if a lot , or all people put as much effort into their marriage as they do money and time trying to get out of the marriage , this world would be a better place. I do not think the damage and trauma, and ramifications inflicted upon a child in the midst of a divorce are fully understood by professionals just yet. I think we will find in the distant future this is the cause of A LOT of our problems with violence ,drug use , physical abuse , mental problems ect.ect.ect.