Best Man for my father

[Buzzie]

My Father is getting married next spring & has asked me to be his Best Man! Has anyone else been in this position & can share any tips &/or advice - especially for the speech!!

This will be his 3rd Marriage (at the age of 75), both his previous wives have died of cancer.

Please help if possible!

[ummmm]

Not really because I'm a girl. Would like to say well done to your Dad though...

[China Doll]

I was the best man for my dad (yes, I'm female, he wanted his best friend to do it) and he promised I didn't have to make a speech. Then on the day shoved the microfone under my face.... I just thanked them both for the day, congratulated them, welcomed his missus to the family, said how proud we (sisters and I) were of dad and wished them a happy life together. I wouldn't like to have had to think of funny bits or stories to tell though, I'd be embarassed.

[karenmac60]

Cd, that's lovely :)
Buzzie, you can get books on wedding etiquette and speeches - try your local library.

[carmalee]

buzzie - how brilliant for both of you - you have an enviable relationship with your father and this can come out in the ceremony. Re the speech -his previous wives (imo) should be mentioned especially as one is your mother, and the fact that he has been widowed twice says a lot about your Dad - he's caring, loving and a stayer - Mention that the new Mrs...... can count on a strong and loving man. The fact that you've been picked as his best man shows what a family man he is - can see this being such a family celebration. Relax, enjoy it and don't over complicate it.

[wolf63]

I think that it shows much about your relationship with your dad. In some cases a bereaved parent choosing to remarry is met with horror by the family and then the fighting, bickering and alienations begin. It is nice to see the other side of the coin.

Best wishes to all of you.

[Buzzie]

To all of you, thankyou for your answers & kind words. Whilst me & my father are not particularly close in a father-son way, we do have a great relationship & are very much on the same wavelength.

As far as bickering, horror & alienation goes, that has never happened because when he has remarried he has involved the whole family from the outset of the relationship. His fiancee Gill has also made it clear to us that she is in no way trying to replace (step)mum & just wants dad to be happy in his dotage.

Carmalee - you've about hit the nail on the head about my Dad!

[theboytree]

try bestmanspeech.com helped me loads,try starting with"hello,this is'nt the first time i've risen from a warm seat with some paper in my hands today" always a good start,good luck;)

[theboytree]

jhkj

[boxtops]

EEwwgh, I wouldn't boytree, that's not nice after a wedding breakfast!!