Getting back a good friendship

[Lov3shy]

As a sensitive guy, I like to retain friendships and keep them to a good level, but I know that not all can be kept that way.
Okay so I met this guy on Facebook (not always a good thing, but I know he's true because he has personal pictures of himself) and we started getting to know each other. He's gay and I'm bi just to let you know, and he's 2 years younger than me. It started out with me thanking him for the friend request and saying I'm hot. It was a brief exchange of compliments and we were going into more depth about interests and aspirations. He talked to his friend about me and saying that I'm hot, which was like 'Uhh okay'. He wasn't very confident with his aspiration to be an actor (mine too) and he wanted to be as hot as Zac Efron. I told him that no matter what people may think, you're still a superstar to me and I believe you can go a long way. He was like 'So are you always this nice to guys like me' with me replying 'Only if they're awesome, besides you're nice to me so I'm nice to you'.
This friendship was then at it's peak and remained here for a little while more. He found much more confidence and he even acknowledged himself that he's hotter than Zac Efron, so much so he became rather conceited (funny to think how I helped him with this). However disaster struck. I was quite attached and I even developed a crush on him. I was gradually acting more obsessed with him and I was constantly complimenting him; this would almost definitely cause him to creep out a bit. He then eventually said that there is a limit for compliments, no matter how conceited he is. I felt a bit ashamed and apologised, but then I was showing my more random side - made him laugh a little but he found it weird. I asked him what he thinks of me (with him questioning why) and he said 'cute, funny, intelligent..why?', I said I was just wondering. And now I'm at the stage where I want the crush to diminish after having a good few months of it going on. He told

[sara3]

anyone care to summarise?

[joggerjayne]

I think there's more to come.

There's an unfinished sentence at the end.

[sara3]

I suspect he nodded off mid-sentence.

[ChuckFickens]

well I can barely wait for the next episode....

[joggerjayne]

Maybe it's all back on ...

... but he didn't want to waste what he'd already typed.

[sara3]

awhh, that would be nice :o)

[sn�gs]

''He told....''

...me to use paragraph spacing?

;-)

[joggerjayne]

Hotter than Zac Efron ... ?

Isn't he about 12 ?

Or am I thinking of the wrong person ?

[hippyhoppy]

lol - hilarious comments.... and yes Jayne.. you're thinking of the right person... ;-)

[sara3]

no. my 12 year old son wants his hair cut like Zac's.

[joggerjayne]

Zac and Cody?

Children's telly?



Well, it doesn't look like we're getting the next instalment !

[sara3]

awhh.. well he said he was sensitive.

come back, Lov3shy :o)

[Androcles]

Finish the final sentence competition

"He told.........." me to push off?

"He told.........." me he's only 13?

"He told........." me he thinks I'm some kind of nutter?

[Lov3shy]

Sorry was in a rush and the system didn't type the rest. Your comments are hardly helpful too!!!!

Here's the continuation:
He told . He told one of his best mates that I'm acting a bit obsessed but this friend is a very good friend of mine too and so she told me, I felt more ashamed. Now what do I do now? Me and him talk occasionally but that good spirit that was present at the beginning has diminished, I don't feel the light any more; I want to have it back. He lives in Missouri whilst I'm here in UK, not a good start. I know a relationship is VERY unlikely and I want to be friends, but my heart doesn't seem to agree So how can I restore the sparkle to friendship?3

[Lov3shy]

That 3 is unintentional, keyboard being rogue.

Can I PLEASE have a USEFUL comment! This situation is hurting me and I want to 1) get over it all, and 2) restore what was once a good friendship.

[bednobs]

you cant have both i'm afraid
You never had a good friendship - you had/have a crush on him/infatuated with him. That is not a basis for a friendship. if you want t get over him, break contact

[ACtheTROLL]

your're bi

pretty obvious you don't know which way to turn

[Lov3shy]

I followed your advice bednobs and I've broken contact with him, it hurt but I did it. He sent a touching message back on how he wants me to remember him, but yeah.

ACtheTROLL, I don't plan on going one way (straight or gay), so yeah. But if you mean go for a man or a woman for a relationship, then I suppose that's correct.