Protecting Our Children

[B00]

Did anyone watch this last night?

I watched it open mouthed, incredulous from beginning to end. Please tell me these kind of people (the parents I mean) are not becoming the norm for our future generations?

[daffy654]

hc, I can answer that last question. I was brought up in care from the age of 3 months to 16 years with a few short periods back home with my mum and 6 siblings.

I was found a flat in an area where I knew nobody and was left to get on with it, I was 16 years old and hadn't got a bloody clue how to look after myself.
I ended up moving in with one of my sisters and had a chaotic life of drugs and clubbing for a while. I managed to pull myself out of the gutter eventually though and everything I went through has made me a very strong woman who is not phased by much.

[hc4361]

I thought that was the case, daffy.

It is simply not good enough.

[ladybirder]

I will ask my daughter when I see her hc and get back to you. She has mentioned that some children keep in contact and pop in for coffee and a chat but I fear many fall by the wayside. I have asked her the question myself but can't remember what she said.
Daffy how many years ago is it since you came out of care?

[chaptazbru]

Beautiful little baby boy last night, so glad he's being adopted. Wish I could have him.

[daffy654]

Ladybirder, it was over 20 years ago but it still happens. It all depends on how good the SS is in the area you live in.

[lozzer50]

i found it very sad that they kept having kids and having them taken away. some people should never have kids. that baby was very lucky considering the alcohol and overdoses she took. the baby will be better off away from those two they deserve each other. social services get called some terrible things but they tried everything possible for these two ...

[lozzer50]

i work with the kids from these kind of damaged relationships its heartbreaking sometimes but someone has to make sure the kids are ok :0)

[annie0000]

I was in tears when "dad" was singing twinkle twinkle to the baby and the wee soul was smiling away at him :o(

[missprim]

Think that was wind annie0000 :-)

[daffy654]

I've just finished watching both episodes on iPlayer.
The couple in last night's seemed very damaged by their own upbringings, they had no ability to look after a baby and i'm glad this one was taken away before he was harmed.

The first episode was a whole different story. Both parents were seriously neglectful, they seemed to care more for the dog than their poor son. The father shouting at the social workers was ridiculous when in one scene he had the little boy in an arm lock. I'm glad the mum decided to have both children adopted out, it was the best thing for all concerned.

[annie0000]

lol miss prim - probably but it was a sweet moment.

daffy - I think they 1st couple had learning difficulties of some sort - especially the guy. I think on her own, the woman could have been taught to some extent. She was bullied by the guy a lot and had very low self esteem. The guy was an erse, she has my sympathy and it was a brave thing to do. It was clear that she loved the kids a lot, she just didn't have a clue.

[ladybirder]

Yes Daffy that father in the first episode was a nasty piece of work. A friend has wondered if the whole series has an agenda to make social services look good and put all the blame on the parents. Has made me wonder as well.

[daffy654]

She was definitely the more intelligent of the two annie. The little one was absolutely terrified of her though, you could tell by his actions, he never went to her voluntarily and kept wanting his dad. I don't think we got anywhere near to the full truth behind the bruises caused by mum in that story.

[daffy654]

I know it's probably awful of me but whenever the father in the first episode spoke I just kept staring at his snaggle tooth, just that one massive rotten tooth hanging out of his mouth had me transfixed with disgust. lol

[annie0000]

true daffy - never really thought of that. Some kids have a tough life - makes me feel that mine are overprotected and spoiled. No 2 son moaning cos he would have preferred something else for dinner, then you have poor kids that don't know where their next meal (or clout) is coming from....my boy nearly ended up in his room with the dinner in the bin!

[annie0000]

lol - I remember the social worker saying that she had battled to get them to brush toby's teeth and dad couldn't understand why as he didn't brush his!!! Surely years of toothache and a mouth like a graveyard would have you obsessive about your child's oral hygiene!!

[daffy654]

http://helpguide.org/...tachment_disorder.htm

I think this is what the little boy in episode one was suffering from.

[annie0000]

very interesting daffy - sounds like the parents may have had that too.

[daffy654]

Almost definitely in both episodes annie. I have seen RAD first hand with my niece and her children, her little girl would walk up to men in the street and lift her dress and tell them she loved them. It was heartbreaking.

[annie0000]

How sad daffy :o(