Mass mourning and hysteria is getting out of hand

[dave50]

There was a story on the news about a 13 year girl being stabbed to death in a park which I know is very tragic and sad. However, later on the news it showed what was termed as a vigil in the park where there must have been hundreds of local people weeping and carrying lighted candles and flowers. However tragic it is, dont you think this kind of thing has now got out of hand and is way over the top? I can understand close family and friends but not half the town. It's like when a school child dies and you see half the school kids weeping en masse on TV and then they are all offered counselling, why? When I was at school, I remember hearing that someone had died, we didnt all suddenly feel the need to go into mass hysterics, it was the topic of the day for an hour or so, then we just moved on.

[hc4361]

Like this story?
http://www.expressand...death-of-popular-dog/

The killer's flat has been boarded up because of fire bombs etc.

[Everhelpful]

It all started with "Princess Diana",totally over the top for someone hardly anybody knew personally.The Florists must have made a fortune.

[wolf63]

I think that people just feel helpless with all the bad stuff that goes on these days - some cry, some get angry and some are confused.

The dog story is one that part of me understands and part of me is still mulling it over.

[trt]

I hate it when people leave cans of lager and bottles of spirits like they did outside Amy Whinehouse,s apartment.

Not far from where I live they did the same at an accident spot where two teenagers died,

[chaptazbru]

I don't regard the dog story as mass hysteria and getting out of hand, rather a tribute to a loving animal killed by a tw*t. And I also think Princess Diana deserved the tributes and grief at her untimely death.

[Nosha123]

ouch....

[chaptazbru]

ouch ??????

[sp1814]

The British have changed...perhaps with exposure to other cultures, specifically American and the Latin countries in Europe, we've all become a bit freer with our emotions.

Didn't happen fifty years ago - the British were known for stoicism and the stiff upper lip...but that was then and now - for better or worse, many people seem to express their emotions in public a lot more.

I know what you mean though...sometimes it does feel a little bit like...bandwagon jumping...

[Nosha123]

yes ouch.... from the, what some might perceive as hurtful comments above and lack of sympathy....

[Nosha123]

poor girl has been murdered and only hours later people who presumably knew her or her family (or knew of them) and want to gather to show their support and grieve for an awful crime.. and they are criticised for it on here...
double ouch...
If it was 3 months later and they were all still blubbing then fine but the poor girl was alive and well just days ago and they were hardly expecting this to happen...

[FredPuli43]

It's welcome. Generations of Britons were brought up not to show emotion but to repress it; 'stiff upper lip, and all that, what ?'; and the consequences were bad psychologically. It's good that we now feel free to express feelings.

[chaptazbru]

I totally agree with you Nosha - didn't know what you meant by ouch, that's all.

[Nosha123]

thats OK chaptazbru.. I was happy to explain myself!

[hc4361]

I agree with dave500.
Open and public grief is very understandable when it is family and close friends.

The majority of people in that vigil would not know her and are being self indulgent and feeling grief that they are not entitled to.

[Ann]

I find it bizarre that relatives have to visit the scene of a tragic road accident, just after it has happened, I just would not want to see the place where they were killed, and would never be able to pass that way again. When the plane crash happened on the motorway near East Midlands airport about 20 years ago we were flying out from there a few days later and had to pass the huge banks of flowers on the side of the motorway, it made us all shudder to see them. Still if it brings people comfort then so be it ...............but I think its so strange, and I agree the hysteria all started with Princess Diana's death.

[Ann]

I will add though, its a terribly sad story, they seem such a loving family and such a waste of a life. Seems to have been a complete random attack too. Poor family.

[chaptazbru]

Who are you to tell people what they are not entitled to ?!!

[Old_Geezer]

It is encouraged. Can you not recall the weeping and wailing and gnashing of teeth competition when Diana went ? One upon a time this nation had a good reputation for dealing with tragedy without trying to compete to look excessively emotional; we left that to other nations, but not so now-a-days.

[hc4361]

I am me, and I felt very strongly like that when I lost a love one in tragic circumstances.
Feel anger, outrage, disgust at such a dreadful occurrence, but grieve and mourn over a total stranger? No, you have not suffered a loss.