My neighbour had a baby

[rozia]

in November 2011, i text her to say congrats and if she needed anything, i.e cleaning tidying shopping etc. She replied to me and said no thanks, and she will let us know when we can visit. She still hasnt invited us over and now its march 2012. She text to say she is pacing herself and letting her mum spend time with the little one. All her friends have visited, and other neighbours, but she didn't have time for me to pop by. this has upset me, because the other neighbour said she told her she could come round any time. But why not me? do you think its because im Pakistani, and she doesn't want to interact with me. I sent her a card and even bought an outfit for the baby, but too small now, and i am feeling terribly upset by the whole thing. Am i being silly? Im so sad that i can not seem to make friends, what is wrong with me? i have had a crap life, no friends, and even at work, others seem to have an ally to go in the corner and chat with, but no one is close like that with me. Why?

[tenrec]

Perhaps you could forget about this lady and, to make new friends join a dance club (you mention Zumba in a previous post). Good luck.

[bellazella]

Rozia you are lovely

[rozia]

it has really upset me though. I tried not to let it get to me, but i have been so good to her, made her a curry when she asked etc, and she just ignored me.

[rozia]

thank you bella, i am just a softie though, and get really down over things.

[tiggerblue10]

Not sure what to advise Rozia but I would just knock round, give her the outfit and tell her that you bought i whn baby was born and then say goodbye and leave. Then just ignore her if shes going to be like that.

Either that or save the outfit for someone else who has a baby.

[bellazella]

Their some really nice people on her rozia

[rozia]

thank u 2shortplanks, that is so kind.x

[tiggerblue10]

Sorry, my keyboard seems to stick a lot these days!

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[rozia]

lol at tigger :-)

[pastafreak]

I agree with tigger....at least you will show that *you* were thinking of her new baby. Don't bother with her if she doesn't respond in a positive way.

[EvianBaby]

Don't let yourself think it's because you are pakistani rozia, I've always had trouble making friends too, I think some of us are just like that, god knows why! :)

As long as you know you're a good person, which you seem to be then you have nothing to worry about.

[Psybbo]

It is her loss, I wish you were my neighbour x

[rozia]

ahh thanks.x

[pizza]

rozia you are a lovely person by sending her the txt to see if she if she needed anything.
You are a good person and for whatever reason she chooses not to let you in as a friend isn't your fault.
I'm sorry you feel you can't make friends but on here you do have people that care about you x

[tinkerbell23]

Rozia i think you seem LOVELY and please move in next to me and make me curry!!!!!! Haha!!

Well my aunts neighbours are pakistani i think and they too sent over gifts and food - my aunt dosent really eat the food as she isnt that adventurous but i bloody would! Hahahah!!!!!

Chin up babes. X

[China Doll]

Maybe you're trying too hard with people? It may sound mean but that can be off putting.

And with the best will in the world, I wouldn't invite my neighbours over so they could see my baby because they are my neighbours and not my friends. If you can be friends with your neighbours then that's nice but it's just not always possible.

Try to focus on what is good about you and just write this off. It's really not a big deal and concentrate on just being a nice and happy person and don't try to please people all the time either. Just be yourself and you'll be fine.

[tinkerbell23]

Influenced by CD there...

Some folk are mates with neighbours and some arent!

I know loads who dont want to get to ott with neighbours

Then again having a wee baby i really think ur house is like a revolving door aswell xxx

[chaptazbru]

Same as sibton, wish you were my neighbour. Please don't spend any more time worrying about this selfish person, just carry on being your lovely self. It is hard to make friends sometimes, do you not have any local charities you can volunteer to work for in your free time? Good luck.