Daughters Birthday party - family feud

[SCOUT909]

Our daughter is 18 this Summer and wants a party in our garden mainly with friends, and close family, however some of my partner's family have been playing up for about a year, jealousy, not sending birthday cards etc, not having anything to do with their grandchildren (our kids). Our daughter does not want any of them there but does want my side of the family there as she is very close to them. I will still feel guilty for not inviting them though, should I be ?

[ummmm]

No, not at all. Why invite people you don't there...I wouldn't invite them.

[bednobs]

it's not really your party to invite people to - it's hers so i wouldn't worry

[excelsior-1]

no. it is clear your daughter will be happy without them, and they do not want anything to do with you and her. one question - how does your partner feelabout this?

[Kiki-frog]

It's your daughter's party, so maybe she should have the final decision.

[SCOUT909]

This is the problem, my partner is disgusted with how they have behaved recently, but at the end of the day it is still his family and my kids' grandparents, uncles, aunts etc.

[FredPuli43]

No, it's her party. She must decide who she wants. She's old enough to make her own decision having considered the pros and cons.

[sherrardk]

Your daughter is now and adult ns it is h decision. I admire her attitude in sticking to her principles.

[SCOUT909]

Yes she is very sensible and has sussed out who really loves her in life - and cant be doing with jealous people just because she has done well for herself - a lesson in life maybe! Its probably me who does not want the confrontation or for anybody to be hurt about it. Thanks

[missnemesis]

Bu99er them Scout. Family should act like family all year round not just when it comes to parties. The party is for your daughter, why fill it with people who obviously don't give a sh!t the rest of the time? I certainly wouldn't and I wouldn't feel guilty about it either. Hope she has a ball.

[SCOUT909]

Well said missnemesis ! And very true.

[rosyherb]

totally agree, plus i doubt if they would care less if the came and spoilt it for your daughter.... which would be unforgiveable.

[missnemesis]

If they are jealous and nasty with it, as they appear to be Scout, then instead of joining in and enjoying the party they would possibly just use it as further justification to be jealous and nasty towards your daughter. In which case you'll all have a much better time without them. :)

[Georgiesmum]

No, its her party so its up to her to invite who she wants, not you so you have no reason at all to feel guilty.

[jno]

her party, her guest list, I suppose. Tell her you'll back her whatever she chooses. (And no, no reason for you to feel guilty.)

[cazzz1975]

I certainly wouldnt invite people who could potantially ruin a nice day, its your daughters call of course, she should invite the people she wants to spend her special day with. she is only 18 once after all.

[naomi24]

No, you shouldn't feel guilty. Why invite people who might upset the applecart? It's a party. Enjoy!

[chrissa1]

I totally agree with all on here.