Am i going mad? or are my suspisions correct?

ShaneMag85 | 16:36 Fri 02nd Nov 2012 | ChatterBank

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Gf dumps me for various reasons, very sudden, didnt see it coming, wont give me the chance to change my ways. However we are still living together until we can get ourselves sorted

Gf has just got back from a trip to her parents house in NEWCASTLE.

Caught my ex gf holding hands with a male Friend on a night out, Stopped holding hands when spotted.

Her male friend burns a hole in the back of my head whilst im chatting to my ex gf about why she is holding his hand - we are JUST FRIENDS she says.

Im under the impression this is a friend from work or something, but of course im suspicious and need answers for peace of mind
so i start snooping about for info.

on furthur investigation her male friends is also from NEWCASTLE.

She was out with him on monday night and wednesday night in WREXHAM

So what the flump is he doing in wrexham 200 miles away from NEWCASTLE

Sorry if im wrong here but no bloke drives halfway across the country to see some girl and take her out on the town and to
the cinema if he doesnt think he has got a chance - or is already seeing her.

Today i did something im totally ashamed of because it is wrong and i should respect her privacy. but i need to know the truth so badly
im willing to do anything to discover the truth.

I started checking any accounts of hers i could get access to.

Of course she has changed her facebook password - seems suspicious

i have access to her xbox account and email, various messages from the male friend.

Hey babe xxxxxxxx

mwah xxxxxxxxx

pretty normal messages for friends to send each other.

I appreciate she is now my ex gf and i shouldn't be bothered, but if the above is true i find it so disrespectful that she would do this
right under my nose. What makes it worse is that i don't know the truth. im going purely on suspicions and it is slowly eating
away at me.

I feel so hurt at the moment i cant even describe it. ive spoke to her about it twice now and she point blankly denies it.
but we have been together for 8 years, and something about the way she denies it tells me something isn't right.

i sent a very deep message to her friend who was out with her that Wednesday night to see if she knew anything.
No reply. Maybe Ive put her in an awkward situation and she doesnt want to answer. Surely if nothing was going on
she would have hit back quite quickly saying nothing is going on.

So she is working late tonite, an hour and 15 mins later than usual. seems to be happening quite a lot recently.
a lot more than usual.

so im considering going out at her normal finish time to see if she is lying to me
and if she does, who she goes with. will it be him.

what do you think. am i right to be suspicious? what should i do because it is literally destroying me inside :(

Tea at 3

Care allowance and a bit of advice

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Sqad

Mate....you have been dumped....it happens.
Get on with life.

Mamyalynne

You need to accept that she is now your ex - and sort out new accommodation very soon.

emmie

suggest you go out and get some new friends.

snags

Isn't all that ^ immaterial now as she's you're ex? Put your energy to better use.

EcclesCake

So you have split from your girlfriend but are still living together due to circumstances. Given that you are snooping on her, virtually stalking her and emailing her friends, quite frankly I'm not surprised she is getting home later than normal from work. I would want to avoid you too.

It is her life and she can do with it whatever she wishes, as much as you want to know the whys and wherefores it has got diddly-squat to do with you and you need to move on.