I (F18) Cannot Get This Boy (M17) Off My Mind. I Only Have Tomorrow To Make A Move Please Help!

[caroline12345]

So I've just left school and i'm starting my A-level exams next week. But at the minute that's a small problem! This year a new boy joined in the year below me from an all boys school (which explains his incapability of talking to girls). I have always felt completely different from my closest friends (i'm in the popular group but wish i wasn't) but over the course of 8 months I've noticed this guy is so similar to me it scares me. Anyway imagine the most awkward person you've ever met and multiply it by 10 and that's him (doesn't help that he is soo good looking but only when people bother to look!) I wouldn't have it any other way though. An unbelievably nice guy who's a complete nerd (like me in secret). Everything he does makes me laugh - I once complemented his hair and his expression was the funniest. I have a different friend group to him and appear totally different but i know how similar we are and i think he has realised it too. The problem is when I try to talk to him, one of my friends will appear and be loud and he will literally run away like a deer in headlights with one of my friends commenting "why were you talking to him?". I have no idea what to do. I've left school and he leaves this friday for study leave. I don't have his number or anything and have no clue how to get it because he is so hard to read (i think he likes me but again i'm totally useless at this kind of thing). It also doesn't help that I am useless around boys - incredibly shy. When I realised I liked him i became just as awkward as him and after Friday I know there will be no more chances. As you can tell i've got it bad -Please help!!

[China Doll]

Ask him for his number so you can stay in touch. You'll never see him again after Friday so you've nothing to fear in terms of being embarassed in the future if he says no, and indeed everything to gain.

[jno]

do as CD says - whatever have you got to lose? Hang around outside the school gates and grab him. Ignore anything your friends may say, it's your life.

[Old_Geezer]

"why were you talking to him?"
Answer, "Because I think he's cute".
Who are you trying to impress anyway ? Who is important to you; what is important to you ?
I have no idea what to do
What about next time you have enough time foe him to make you laugh you quickly ask if he fancied the idea of meeting up to go to ?
I get it you are shy, but take my word for it, knowing that doesn't solve anything. If you would like to be comfortable in situations you dread now, then you have to take a deep breath and do them anyway, maybe without taking time to think and cop out. The more you try outside where you are comfortable the more tomorrow you will be comfortable with. That especially relevant during your younger years when the folk you know now are not likely to be around until you are a pensioner anyway. So why should you care who thinks what of you ? Just do it.

[Old_Geezer]

OK I'm unusre what happened to a part of my post that seems to have opted to disappear ... oh hang on, it's this darned site hiding anything in trianglular brackets, for a laugh isn't it >:-(

[Old_Geezer]

"why were you talking to him?"
Answer, "Because I think he's cute".
Who are you trying to impress anyway ? Who is important to you; what is important to you ?
I have no idea what to do
What about next time you have enough time foe him to make you laugh you quickly ask if he fancied the idea of meeting up to go to {insert your favourite social event here} ?
I get it you are shy, but take my word for it, knowing that doesn't solve anything. If you would like to be comfortable in situations you dread now, then you have to take a deep breath and do them anyway, maybe without taking time to think and cop out. The more you try outside where you are comfortable the more tomorrow you will be comfortable with. That especially relevant during your younger years when the folk you know now are not likely to be around until you are a pensioner anyway.

[Sharingan]

Right so you don't feel stupid or as if you are sticking your neck out too much, wait until he's with a group of others and go with a more confident friend if you can and say you are thinking of organising some sort of meet up later in the summer and get ALL their numbers. You don't actually need to organise anything really but it's a good excuse and you can then take it from there and if you are shy of asking him out once you have his number, organise the meet up so he's included in a group. Don't leave it, if you like him get his number :)

[Prudie]

You sound like the song Teenage Dirtbag by Wheatus - grab your chance now while you can - somehow

[andy-hughes]

I think China's advice is sound - one woman to another.

You have nothing to lose by asking for his number - if he likes you, he will give it to you. If you are unsure, why not write down your number on a small piece of paper, casually hand it to him and say something innocuous like "Stay in touch won't you ..." when you part company. And then cross your fingers!

Best of luck - hope it works out for you.

[DaisyNonna]

Write your number on a piece of card (less likely to get lost than paper).
Say "It would be nice to keep in touch." Pass the card. 10 seconds. Nothing to lose. Good luck.

[FredPuli43]

Shari is being as clever as ever. That's pretty neat and a good way of avoiding putting him on the spot! (Shari's more in your age group than the rest of us). This old man remembers what it's like being a boy like that and I can assure you that you've got to make the first move,and, failing all, grab your chance and exchange numbers, contact etc; otherwise he'll never know what a friendship he's missing, will he?

[boxtops]

Is he on facebook, so you could PM him?

[Sqad]

\\\\This year a new boy joined in the year below me from an all boys school (which explains his incapability of talking to girls).\\\\
Eh?........that's news to me.

Forget him....if he was interested in you he would have made a move.

He hasn't and he isn't.

[FredPuli43]

Sqad, just because you went rampaging up to girls and a carried them off to your lair, it doesn't follow that every boy of 16 or 17 was like that !lol.

I certainly didn't know how to make the first move, even if I wanted to, at that age. It was more a case nervous,tentative,not sure what to do on both sides, so that I had 'not made the first move'; meant nothing; lots of boys are like that. And girls are too; that's why I was against mentioning the girl's perfume.