Fao Anneasquith

[masma]

I know I shouldn't be doing a FAO but didn't want to highjack excelsior's post..
Not too bad at the moment anne, all quiet on the western front.. He was 2 weeks off the wagon and that was sheer hell. Even when things have been bad before he's never been really nasty, especially to me. He's got no money left until this weekend then.. we'll see. I'm just so scared that he'll fit again and this time it'll be fatal. Thank you for asking about me it means so I really don't have anyone to talk to who's not really angry with him.

[wolf63]

I didn't see the other thread but was wondering how you were doing.

Cyber hug from me. Being ill is hard but those who care about the ill person usually have a harder time and suffer much. X

[DTCwordfan]

Hey, masma, there are plenty of us around to chat too and who aren't angry with him - or you. I do think your daughter/his sis needs bringing in on the act, pointing out that anger, on her part, is not going to do anything positive but he needs the riot act. Could she be there with you perhaps when he is in the house? Or at least get to you or phone the police if there is the slightest hint o aggression...perhaps a coded word between you two, so he doesn't know that you have triggered that you need help.

[murraymints]

good idea that DT..but above all you have to take care of yourself masma..if he can't conform to an acceptable level of behaviour in your home and you feel unsafe..then he will HAVE to make other arrangements..make this clear to him..i wish you good luck , remember to come here when you feel stressed, we are not judgemental in any way and are only too pleased to help in any way we can xxxx

[anneasquith]

masma, I was so sad to hear the news about another set back, especially as last time was so dreadful for you all, I know everyone will be saying ' wash your hands of him ' but as you have always said he is your son, id be concerned about the violence though, is this going to be the pattern for the rest of his/your life I wonder ? I know you are in a terrible position and assume your family are saying enough is enough, I wonder if it is ? Im so sorry that you and o have to live in this situation, im more than happy to listen to you anytime you want to rant.and I do think of you often, take care anne.

[pixie373]

Hi masma. It is so hard worrying about someone else. Sorry if you've already said, but how much outside help and support are you all getting? Sometimes people react better to people they don't know so well. I imagine he's fully aware of how difficult it is for you- but is struggling to control it. I wish all your family all the best xx

[masma]

Thank you all so much for your kindness I really don't worry about violence from him but the verbal is just as hurtful, also I'd rather not get his sister confronting him the last thing I need is unpleasentness between them. My extended family know he drinks but nothing else. Mr M will be 70 on Sunday and all we wanted was a peaceful retirement.

[DTCwordfan]

Masma - you have to be really firm if he confronts you.....it may be unnerving at the time but come on here and we'll build you up again! Hope Mr M has a fab day, by the way.......I'm sure it will be for all of you and hopefully he has the sense to behave for y'all.

[gness]

Hi, Masma......I really am sorry that you have to go through this....for you and for him because I know, from reading your posts, that you'd do anything to help him...

Much love.....Gx

[Jeza]

I also feel for you masma. My brother put everyone of my parents windows through in a fit of rage because Dad would not give him any money for more booze. I will add I'm going back many years. I hope both you and your son come through this setback. ♥

[anneasquith]

hi masma, ive been thinking about you and family, is it time for some ' tough love'' ?

[masma]

Anne... I just don't think I'm strong enough, if anyone hurt him I'd never forgive them. I'm just so soft over my family.

[anneasquith]

I know masma, and he knows it too, just how long can you and your family cope with this ongoing situation. anne

[masma]

I really don't know Anne - until the death of one of us I guess...

[pixie373]

Have you got professional help, masma?