divebuddy - //Elina. Most of the "house husbands" I've known have been wussies. Having your wife be the bread winner can't do a lot for your self esteem. Just my opinion (in case Andy reads this). //
Of course it's your opinion, and I am delighted to advise you that you too can think what you like!
It depends on your definition of 'wussies' and whatever the opposite to that might be - and whether you are looking at superficial indicators that may not reveal the true picture.
As I have said, no partner in a proper balanced relationship should feel inferior because they perform a different role.
Any 'breadwinner' needs a support system of some sort - that may be a partner who runs the home, which in itself is a responsibility as equal and as difficult as any full-time job.
Or, as in our case, it may be that one has elected not to follow a high-powered career in order to provide most of the practical support, although it is a very fluid situation with no demarcation lines whatsoever.
Whoever is around with the energy does the chores - it works fine.