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nailit | 18:59 Sun 05th Mar 2017 | ChatterBank
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As many of you know, I'm due to start a bit of voluntary work at the local foodbank on Tuesday.
While I'll definitely give it a bash I'm starting to get cold feet about it. I have social anxiety issues and the thought of it is giving me cold feet. Earlier today the thought of having a heart attack (or some other equally debillitating circumstance) seemed almost welcome to get myself out of it but I don't want to get out of it, I want to work. (paid or unpaid).
A few years ago I had a course of CBT but cant say that it did anything. Thought that I was over the worst of it but obviously not.
Any tips, experience etc would be welcome,
Thanks guys.
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Starting anything new is either really exciting or a cause of anxiety. Tell yourself that you want to do this but you are anxious about it. Then decide that, despite your anxiety, you are going to give it a go.

Then, give it a go and see how you get on.

I bet you were feeling the same way when you joined the Book Group and that turned out ok.
Don't back out. Tell the staff.....there are an awful lot of anxious people around :)....and a few deep breaths. Good luck :)
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Thanks Tills and Jo,
Probably just having a rant because I hate feeling like this and just want my life back. Never been too good around people that I don't know but the last few years havnt been too brilliant.
if I could get enough food etc to last me the rest of my life and lock myself away, I would. But as I said I don't want to be like this.
Social anxiety can be crippling and somehow you have to work hard to fight it.


Turn all that adrenalin to good energy.

Hope it goes well.
Feel the fear and do it anyway! You'll be fine Nailit. Once you get into it you'll wonder what all the fuss was about! Think of it as a challenge. Nailit is going to win.....
Look at this as a start to getting your life back, and stop getting angry with yourself.

If you lock yourself away, we'll all have to come round and make you go outside. All 300,000+ of us... ;o))
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//Social anxiety can be crippling//
Thanks mamy, it cripples me at times and I get fed up of people suggesting that I get my act together (NOT ABers, but sometimes medics)
Once you get there and meet people I am sure you will be alright. If you are kept busy, you won't have time to think uncomfortable thoughts. Not only will you be helping others, it will also help you.

Good luck Nailit.
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Patsy //Once you get into it you'll wonder what all the fuss was about!//
More than likely :-)
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//All 300,000+//
Now THATS scary jo.....
:o))
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//Once you get there and meet people I am sure you will be alright//
Its people that scare me.........
I know, Its irrational. But sure ur right.
deep breaths..let the folks there know of your anxiety so they can reassure and help you along the first few days....
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Cheers minty :-)
Hope ur feeling a bit better?
I am ta xx
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Good show minty :-)
Was beginning to wonder where you were, glad ur well. XX
Nails you faced, and was successful at the interview. The job will be a P of P after managing that. (^_*)
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//P of P//
Hope that doesn't end up in 'crosswords' Togo, lol.
lost BT lines for a few days nailit
Peace of Piste, Nails. :))

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