Having Fun With My Boyfriend And Feeling Bad About It

[Soitwaslike1]

Hey, I'm a 20 year old girl and im in a secret long distance relationship for over 2 years. I can't tell my parents about our relationship because they will not be happy to hear it. you may ask why, i'd say because they have some " bigger " plans for me or they just care about me so much? they dont want me to get in trouble ? they are so traditional ? ETC. so i'm trying to find a way , or just wait to see how we should do it. but i'm sure that i love him and he loves me too. and we're serious. anyways , He came to see me after a long time , he got a room , we were there for a few hours and we had some fun ( nothing so serious but yeah, in some ways ) even tho we didn't plan for it and it just happened. after that day , im feeling depressed , and I lied to my parents that im going out with some friends to shop or smth. and i feel so ashamed that my parents don't know what i did and I lied to them. because this is so out of our tradition. I trust myself and the guy that i love , so i'm okay with it, but overall, it just feels so bad... i can't stop thinking about it. it makes me wanna kill myself :) anything to help ?

[1ozzy]

Nope,

[douglas9401]

Wait, what? As they're saying these days.

[davebro]

At 20 you should be old enough & mature enough to stick up for yourself. If you really like the bloke tell your parents everything, bring it all out into the open & deal with any objections they may have.

They may even be OK with it.

[barry1010]

I think somebody should tell you - he booked a room, he certainly did plan for 'it' to happen.
Never a good idea to keep secrets from your parents, especially if you are still living with them. Tell them and listen to what they have to say. They may know something you don't; they may be happy for you; they may not have an opinion either way. You're 20, they won't be surprised you have a boyfriend

[davebro]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Guess_Who%27s_Coming_to_Dinner

[Canary42]

Come clean, you'll feel much better for it. But, be warned, the secrecy may be the only thing that's keeping the relationship alive (been there and found out the hard way).

[johnk]

Good answers there, go with them.