i truly f&*ked up this time....

[ANGELEYES07]

im just gonna sum up my issues since i just poured my heart out...and the 1st part didnt get saved...so here i go again...hey everyone please give me an honest amswer...kay moved to pittburgh last yr feb started new job didnt know anyone told myself to just stay focused on school and work...there was a guy at my job i constantly avoided we taled exhanged numbers thing got serious real fast he ended up moving in with me that august i became pregnant everything was still beautiful for my birthday aug 28th he cooked han candle light dinner for christmas he brought me a ring 1500 dollars....that valentinesday was perfect.....but then once i hit like 8 months he started to go out to hte clubs every wkend wit his freinds coming in at 3/ 4 in the moring somtimes 3 nights in a row.....hes still doing it even with baby here im so fruastrated im starting to hate him we dont even really speak at night theres truly no moe cuddling and hugging he has his back twards me....i feel his cheating but neva no evidance i dont know what to do......

[jno]

sounds like he's suddenly decided - a bit late - he's not ready to be a daddy yet. Men these days can take a while to grow up. He's not necessarily cheating on you, but he's probably just trying to tell himself he's not married, he's not a father, he's just a single young man with no commitments. In fact he's a jerk. It's hard to go through this sort of thing alone (or alone with baby). Do you have family or friends you can turn to for emotional support? And is he still providing financial support?

[toniaj30]

You poor thing. Personally I think that the best thing you can do is get rid of him. There is nothing worse than being in a relationship with someone for the sake of it. I know its easy for me to say, but in the interests of your child and YOU then you should end it whilst before you end up wasting yourself with this loser. Hopefully you have friends and family who will support you? If not perhaps consider moving to wherever your family is for a fresh start? As to whether he is cheating- its a little irrelevant - if he is treating you like this then it doesn't matter. Think of yourself...

[jno]

well, I wouldn't go dumping him just yet. He's still living at home - many other men would have just run out - so there's still hope, and I think in the interest of both you and your baby it's worth keeping on trying to rescue the relationship. Hard work, I know, and unfair because you've done nothing wrong. Would he go for couples counselling of some sort, do you think?

[4getmenot]

er jno maybe he has no-where else to go and is just using her for somewhere to stay. Coz from sounds of it having his mates round, coming in at 3 he isnt staying there to be with her and baby

[ANGELEYES07]

thanks guys so much for your support & answers...uummas far as him staying here umm kay at 1st we lived with my mom i knoe i was wrong for that but then i kept saying we need our own place so finally in dec we put money together but his names the only one on the lease so its only may...plus i purchased a brand new malibu which he loves to drag to the clubs when the argreement was for it to be used more so for work rather then parting.....oh and also he has 2 other kids so he was already a father....all i keep asking my self is how the hell did i get myself inthis crazi situation...but i would never regret my son....i just want to teach him right and have lil to no dysfuntion.....his father is truly fighting against me on being a real family something he never had....

[ANGELEYES07]

im 23 he is 24...my mom lives out here and shes telling me to move in with her and ju worry about my carnote and my baby... also my sister but she lives kinda far....he seems to know the whole world and everyday he always has something planned instead of being home sayn oh he dont want to always be around me which when he's here hes not here cuz hes playing his damn xbox till real late..he dosent like changing our sons diapers..its just all wrong not how i imagined it to be ; ( guess im not ghetto enough for him cuz im not into smoking weed everysecond of the day or bar hoping

[jno]

that's not sounding good, angeleyes; you should probably start preparing an exit strategy. Your family would be a good place to start until you can get your head together. If it's his name on the lease I guess he'll have to pay the rent, so that's something you shouldn't have to worry about.

[sam100]

there will be no teaching him and besides whats the point? Move in with your mum and get a bit of support from her and move on with life.
Sounds like this guy is very imature and selfish and do u really want to waste ur life with someone like that? U deserve to be treated better...
We all make mistakes and see people through rose tinted spectacles but at the end of the day draw a line under it and get the hell out.
It will seem like a big change at first and be a bit scary but it will be worth it in the end. And to be honest if he turned round to me and said that he was gonna change etc etc i wouldnt believe it as i think you have already seen this leopards spots! His behaviour is disgusting.

[sam100]

ohhh and i meant to wish u luck.x

[ANGELEYES07]

thanks again guys for all the support....since i last posted my answer...me and my fiance had a very deep heart to heart and he's has realized his actions and has been doing a whole lot better im hoping it isnt just to get me into thinking his changing so that he can turn around and **** up again...but i definitely wont be nieve cuz yes i know leopards dont change there spots.....pray for me!!

[smeghead81]

stupid, ******** f.ucking ghetto b1tch chav