We want a key to the Lake House

[guitaroms]

My parents, who are semi-retired, recently purchased a neat vacation lake house with a boat. Although they frequently invite us to the house and entertain us, my husband and I would like our own key so we can come and go as we please. We would possibly like to entertain our friends there. My parents have rules, are neatniks and are uptight about their things. We have two small children and we have told them that we can't guarantee them that everything is going to be kept the way they want. How do I convince them to give us a key?

[Louisa 69]

You don't. It is your parents property so why should they give you a key. You also say you can't guarantee that you'll leave the place as you found it... no wonder they're not keen on the idea. I think your just going to have to respect your parents wishes on this one.

[dot.hawkes]

By entertain you, do you mean they do turns? Why not get your own less neat vacation house (aka holiday home) and then you can entertain them for a change. what is a neat nik? is it the same as a beatnik but without the long hair and scruffy jeans?
Plus, and this is just be being a worrier, why take the sprogs to a lake? that's just askin for bother.

[donella]

yep i agree with louisa, it is up to them, if you want to go on holiday with your kids than its probably best that you sort out your own accomodation,

[LOX]

yep, i agree 100% with your parents and all these other coments you've received, you sound to me as though you have no respect for your parents or their beloved retreat !!! Buy your own, then you can have all the party's you want and all your friends can come along and trash all your things that you;ve worked hard for instead !!!!!

[happyalien]

Is this a wind up? Have a word with yourself!

[redcrx]

i hope they read this and stop the invites!

Could you possibly be any more greedy? They dont need to invite you, and they certainly dont owe you a key.

Do as they did, save up, retire and buy your own neat little house.

[meltoadhall]

since its not your house and you are already invited to visit why should you have a key?
Especially if you cant guarantee leaving it in the way you find it.!

[mrstrunchbul]

happyalien u r funny i needed a laugh x

[its_me_baby]

think ur cheeky expecting to come and go in there property. if u wanna entertain friends use ur own place. God my mum in law has a holiday home and i would never dream of asking for a key. And i thought it was just children that were selfish

[WendyS]

Why should you have a key? It's not your house and if your children can't be controlled, why should they be allowed to have the run of somebody else's house. Your parents have obviously worked hard to save and get this holiday home. They have a right to their privacy and to enjoy the way they want it kept.
Your parents generously invite you to go there regularly and entertain you. You are lucky to have this opportunity. I don't think you should risk offending them by asking for your own key. Just because you're members of the same family it doesn't mean that privacy boundaries shouldn't be respected.