I agree with you both, I was absolutely appalled at her.
The bit that will stick with me for a long time was when she said that everybody, no matter what they had done, deserves forgiveness ! She came across as completely brainwashed, and it begs the question, would she have forgiven him if he'd have done these horrific things to her daughter ? Thank goodness for the daughter that he didn't ( although I think it was just a matter of time ) but I am inclined to think that even then she would have made excuses for him.
And as for his comment when that bloke said that a 10 year old girl had been raped ( he said that she probably deserved it ) I would have all on stopping myself from knifing him just for saying that.