I hate my sister.

[Sarah9]

I hate my sister and I feel terrible about admitting it. She has everything going for her, I have not. She has a great husband and a beautiful child, many many friends, male and female, loads of friends on-line and I hate her. The feeling just won't go away. If I were to tell you the truth we have never really got on and as the years go by I hate her even more. Her popularity on-line is the worst. Why can't she just stay off the computer and leave me alone. Everyone I like they like her, it's so unfair. What am I doing wrong? What can I do to get rid of these feelings I have about her?

[Bbbananas]

She's your sister! Has she done anything to give you cause to hate her, other than 'having it all'? Does she rub it in? Does she make you feel inadequate?

People can like more than one person - just cos they like her, doesn't mean they don't like you as well.

[Rollo]

Don't worry too much about it.

When you grow up these feelings will probably disappear.

[Sarah9]

She constantly gets on my nerves, she�s so honest and nice I could choke. I need to sort this out with her. I�m green with envy.

There�s a bloke on a site we go onto and he chats to her all the time, he�s a real creep, takes the **** right out of her and I love it, I keep encouraging her to talk to him. I know it�s not very nice but it keeps her away from places I frequent and I then get the attention she usually gets.

[Sarah9]

I know I sound really petty and jealous, I don�t care, I�m just being honest. I want advice on how to deal with the situation. I don�t like feeling like this.

[redcrx]

how old are you?

yes you do sound jealous and petty, not an attractive trait at all if you want people to like you.

[B00]

Just because she's your sister, it doesn't necessarily mean you have to love her. I don't believe in this whole "love your family unconditionally" malarky at all.

However, you obviously seem to know that the issues you hve are ones that need to be addressed. Get some friends of your own who have no connection with your sister.

I'm also willing to bet that the friends you do share, also equally care for you as well as your sister.

[Sarah9]

I'm 41. I've caused her alot of upset and the people she knows don't like me anymore. I'm trying to mend my ways with her and she will let me but then i find myself doing stupid things to her as the hate just takes over. Why?

[Sarah9]

We used to have the same on-line friends then I got jealous when they chatted more to her than me as she is so nice. I have done somethings on-line to her without her knowledge which I�m not proud of, in my mind she and they deserved it.


I have to go now. Thanks for all your answers. With any luck she�ll stay chatting with the creepy guy and stay away from my sites, I know that would make me happy.

[Bbbananas]

Why don't you try being as nice as you say she is? It might just get results.

[redcrx]

sounds like you need to sort out whats missing in your own life rather than worrying about the things she has.

No-one says you have to love your sister, you dont have to have anything to do with her if you dont want. But to follow her around and cause trouble for her and her friends is just nasty.

I could possibly understand it from a teenager but a 41 year old?

[4getmenot]

You're 41!! Jeez I read that and thought you were about 15! People can make their own minds up about people and it would seem your online friends saw you for what you are a jelous nasty person. Your sis has done nothing wrong

[Sarah9]

she was born, that's wrong enough! Do you have to be a certain age to hate someone then?

[whiskeysheri]

It doesn't sound as though you do feel terrible admitting you hate your sister, Sarah. I agree with B00; that there are no rules stating you have to like everyone you're related to, but if you really don't like her as much as you say, then why don't you keep away from her? It's obviously not making you feel great (or her, probably) and there's no forcing yourself to like anyone.

There's only 21 months between my own sister and me, but we couldn't be more different. I love her to bits, but she aggravates me beyond belief. My sister is bubbly and gets along with everyone, whereas I'm far more private.

[4getmenot]

sorry but after you saying that and me not seeing that she has actually done anything wrong. I think this is all a wind up. I only came on here to see if redcrx had written it anyway :-) Grow up and cheer up. your life is your own not your sisters. I love my sis to bits and my nephew and niece, do you not think you are missing out on quality time with them as well by hating her so much.

[Bbbananas]

So she did wrong in simply being born eh?
Ask yourself how you would feel if she died?.
It's envy, jealously - call it what you will. Pure & simple envy. Start making the most of, or more of, your own life instead of being resentful of hers.

41, going on 14.
I'm not sure this isn't a wind-up post.

[redcrx]

do you really want to get rid of the feelings you have?
cut yourself off from her, if shes upset then explain why.
Also come clean about what youve done and youll probably find that she agrees with you keeping away.

You dont say if you are married of have children of your own. Is there a reason within your life (not your sisters) thats caused you to be this way?

[whiskeysheri]

Oh, pull yourself together and grow up! Wrong enough because she was born?!

What did she do to you for you to try and hurt her online? Do you not feel protective over her at all? I can't imagine setting out to hurt anyone in my family even if I don't get along with them. I think you have issues with yourself that don't even concern your sister.

[4getmenot]

I used to hang around town with lots of the 'townies' then my lil sis started coming up there it caused alot of problems and because I;m more honest and tell people what I think and she's more sucky to people they fell out with me while she lied her butt off but then I realised my true friends were still there and I just didnt hang about town anymore.

[MadJudas68]

i knew online sisters, they were hot!