My sister in law

[Jellybean25]

Ok, first let me apologize, this is half a rant and half a question. Basically, my sister in law has split up with her partner of ten years. They were getting married and she was still getting dress fittings, car bookings etc as little as 3 weeks ago. All of a sudden she turns around and says she doesn't want to be with him any more. She has made him leave the house, which annoys me because they have 3 kids and it was his very hard earned wages that paid for everything. She said she didn't want to be with him any more because he was always working, but at the same time he was working to pay for her and she always has to have the best of everything. Yesterday she had the cheek to ask him if he could watch the kids while she went on a driving lesson after chucking him out of his own house and denying him access to his kids. He said no, which i think was right. Why should he jump to her whims? He has got nowhere to live and is crushed. Plus she is already shagging someone else, who is also her cousin. My question really is am I wrong in thinking she is a ***, a terrible mum and a bit of a nut job? Also should I tell her what i think of her? Because I used to think she was a nice person but now I see her in a whole different light.

[bobjugs12]

Jesus, your sis-in-law sounds like my ex-wife. Except she was shagging around whilst we were still married.
No your not wrong in thinking those things, but it may be advisable to keep the opinions hidden as it will cause no end of trouble (especially if she is as much of a crack-w_hore as you described!!)

[Androcles]

What would have happened if he said no - you go?

[suzie1]

he has every right to move back in.....i know this coz when i had problems with my hubby, coz he owned half the house, he was legally allowed to stay there with me and the kids, unless he was a danger to us, in that case he would have had to keep away from the house, but he wasn't! were back together now!!! just a minor hitch.

[ummmm]

How does ending a relationship make her a bad Mum?

It's only been a few weeks....!! It's also none of your business what she gets up to in her private life.

[mollykins]

my ex sister in law calls my brothers girl friend a cow and got their two year old daughter to give my brother some grass and say 'this is for the cow daddy' when he picked her up.

[mollykins]

actually, she was never my sister in law, they were ingaged when they broke up, but nearly, and they'd had a daughter together.

[boxtops]

Better she splits before the wedding than afterwards, something must have happened to trigger it. You may not know all the circumstances, its not your relationship. Stay out of it.

[Le Chat]

No one knows what goes on behind closed doors. Her partner may be great with everyone else but may not be so nice when no one else is around. Don't judge too fast.

[Jellybean25]

Oh god, my sister in law tells everybody who asks everything right down to when she last went to the toilet. I'm not joking first time I met her she was on the toilet having a turd and invited me in to have a chat while my mother in law and my other sister in law sat on the edge of the bath so please don't tell me it's none of my business. She has palmed off her kids to everyone that will have them and has gone slagging it round town to anyone that will take her every night for the past three weeks, plus she has only just remembered it is her middle childs birthday tomorrow and has to run out to buy him presents today, so please, please boxtops don't tell me to stay out of it.l

[Jellybean25]

Anyway, sorry, thank you for what you have said, I'm not going to say anything to her. FYI, my husband (her brother) also thinks she's a *** and thinks the kids are going to suffer because their mum did the same to them when they were kids.

[ummmm]

It's still her life and her business.

[Jellybean25]

Ummmm it's not just her life, is it? Shes made her ex fiance homeless and she's hurting the kids. Plus you said in an earlier post its only been a few weeks, your right so why is she already doing someone else? How would you feel if the same had been done to you?

[ummmm]

Yes it is her life. People can say NO to looking after the kids. People react differently to break ups. You don't really know how he treated her. She might be desperate for love and comfort.

I'm not condoning it....but unless you've walked in someones shoes and all that.

[ummmm]

Have you even tried talking to her?

[Jellybean25]

Whaaaaattttt? Were you not reading my earlier posts? I hear from her daily about what shes been up to etc. She tried to get me to have her youngest this morning but i said NO. She's mental, she just suddenly said one day I don't want to get married anymore, he hasn't done anything to her because believe me I would know, they are a no secret type family. She didn't mind spening £25,000 of his hard earned money planning the wedding though.
She's just like her mum, sex on the brain and if she doesn't get it daily she'll go elsewhere. She'll probably get back with him once she realises she can't live quite as well on benefits.

[ummmm]

Leave her to it then.....

He'll have to refuse to take her back. It's her life at the end of the day. As an adult she can do as she chooses. Might not be ideal....but it's a fact.

[Jellybean25]

I do really appreciate your input ummmm and i do mean that. I think when i wrote this i was more ruffled around the boa then anything. It's just she doesn't half act like a spoilt child who has to have what she wants when she wants it and he would go back to her because he loves his kids and wants to be with them.
Thanks for your answers anyway xx

[ummmm]

Hopefully he won't take her back and she'll learn her lesson the hard way.....

[Jellybean25]

Why does my answer say that, i didn't write ruffled around the boa, what the hell does that mean?

[ummmm]

That means p!ssed off....lol