feeling guilty for cremating my cat

[SizzleSquid]

i had a cat for 13 yrs, i loved him like my baby, he died day before yesterday, of fluid on lungs. I cant afford to bury him in pet cemetary but can cremate him, however i feel its wrong, feel guilty about having to cremate him and not bury him. Cant bury him in my garden its council. Feel Sugar, lonely, and fed up. Cant go out with friends to get my mind off it as they all have kids and cant afford to. Any ideas to cheer myself up? Had enough.

[mike11111]

Who's going to know if you bury him in the garden?

[Hopkirk]

I want to be cremated, not buried.

[karenmac60]

I grew up in a council house and although we never buried a cat in the garden, there were plenty of hamsters there. Like Mike says - who'll know?

[carlton23]

Do you have `a friend` who will bury him in their garden for you? I have a tree growing over where I buried a cat years ago, and a name tag fixed to it.

[dotty.]

Of course you can bury him in your garden, sorry you've lost your cat, same happened here end of November and I went for 2 rescue cats straight away, best thing i could do and they are now in charge

[jno]

what's "wrong" about cremation? My parents were, and I'm quite happy to go the same way. It's not disrespectful or cold-hearted, to humans or animals.

[SizzleSquid]

thanks guys, im planning to leave in a year or so, so maybe i wont bury him in the garden x

[regulo]

Commiserations. Look at it this way. Many humans are cremated, not buried nowadays. We think none the less of our loved ones for that. If you believe in souls, you'll know your pet lives on, without the encumbrance of a physical body. If you don't believe in the hereafter, then you must steel yourself to cremate your pet, in the knowledge that he won't know anything about it. The important thing is that you did your best while he was with you, and nothing will ever alter that. Chin up. Life goes on.

[Purple_Popple]

I feel so sorry for your loss, we get so attached to them dont we ? they are part of our family and I can and do sympathise with how you are feeling right now. If its of any comfort I lost my beloved dog a few years ago, I did have him cremated and I have not regretted it, his ashes are in a lovely ceramic urn and he is still 'with me'. I will one day scatter them in the place we both had the best times, the best walks etc..but i cant quite part with him yet if you see what i mean...you are expected to feel down so please dont beat yourself up for feeling like you do..you will get through this, but for now I cannot suggest anything to 'cheer you up'....I don't think you can really be cheered up..sorry.

[JonnyBoy12]

I agree with the above; if you bury him in the garden then who will know? We do not know your real name here. We could organise an ABer funeral for your cat, and then cremate him. We could either take the ashes away, or spread the ashes in your garden, and we promise not to tell anyone.

[Dris]

I'm so sorry for you -its gonna break my heart (again) when it happens (again)-no wonder you feel rotten:(
Our wee Buddyboy is to be cremated -everyone knows (in case we're not here) -we shall keep him and take him with us wherever we go.Shouldnt imagine it would be a big container.Couldnt bear not to have him with us or him without us.
As mike said -who is to know? Chin up and hope you feel peaceful soon -its very sad (

[Hopkirk]

You don't want some future tenant accidentally digging him up, when planting potatoes.

[dotty.]

we all go back to the earth in one way or another. As for cheering yourself up, which is what you asked, try this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s13dLaTIHSg

[Hopkirk]

I like this one

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w0ffwDYo00Q

[Andyvon]

Very funny Dotty. I loved the expressions on the chap's face.

[Andyvon]

Very good too H. My father complains about something like that with his cat.

[Hopkirk]

There's more if you search for Simon's cat on youtube

[Eve]

I'm so sorry, it's heartbreaking losing a beloved pet.

When I lost my gorgeous cat Heathcliffe, we lived in a ground floor flat (with cat flap) on a quays development. My gut reaction was to bury him but it would have been very difficult and I had a horrible vision of the security firm which patrol the development turning up part way through and taking issue which would have traumatised me after losing him. So I had him cremated, ridden up in style to the vets in my friend's posh BMW and they took care of everything for me.

I kept his collar and tag and some of his fur, some to keep with me and some to bury as he certainly loved his stalking ground - had made numerous friends about the place and used to frequent the local pub beer garden.

Strangely enough I had a catch up with some former colleagues earlier and we were taking about losing pets and one of my friends had recently had her dog cremated and has his ashes in a lovely little box while she decides if and where she is going to scatter them.

[slinkycat]

Sorry to hear of your loss, if you are planning on moving soon though, wouldn't it be best if you had him cremated? That way you can take the urn to your next home and then decide whether to bury the ashes there.
I have various unmarked graves in my garden, not planning on staying here forever, just hope the next owners don't do major landscaping:-(