instant dislike

[wendilla]

Has anyone taken an instant dislike to someone even though you have not spoken to that person. There is a woman at school when picking up children and I have taken an instant dislike to her .I have not had any conversation with her she is probably a very nice person but I still feel if she does speak I will still dislike her.It is horrible to think like that as I get on with people.

[Ice.Maiden]

I think what usually happens in situations like this, is that the person in question perhaps reminds you of someone else that you don't get on with/like - or perhaps this person looks set to "steal the thunder" of the leading ladies in the school crowd - or even dresses differently. Any number of reasons can make others react in the way that you have, but I've found from experience that fears are often unsubstantiated. Do you feel threatened by her in any way? try a friendly "hello" and see if you get any reaction - x

[mrs_overall]

I hate myself for doing it, but I've taken an instant dislike to some people and my gut instinct is usually right.

There is a woman I see at the gates of my son's school, and like you, I've never spoken to her but my hackles rise whenever I see her. My private nickname for her is Young Fat Frump. This will make me sound like a total bitch but everything about her winds me up. She must be colour blind as she often wears an electric blue coat with tartan leggings and red flat lace up shoes. Her hair is never combed, she wears 80's Dierdre Barlow specs and looks like a simpleton as she is a mouth breather.
I don;t know her daughter's name as she calls her "Princess". At school disco's/school fairs she elbows other mums out of the way so "Princess"can be first in line for everything.

I wish I could explain these feelings but I can't.

I'm normally a nice person......honest!

[jackthehat]

I find that taking an instant dislike usually saves time later on.......and I'm ususally right, too.

[wendilla]

No don't feel threatened in any way .She is not really in the bit where I wait to pick up I just see her go past. But your answer certainly makes a lot of sense but I can't say that is why I instant dislike her.Thanks for your reply.

[Ice.Maiden]

Awwww...Mrs. O - nickname her "Rainbow" - she sounds like a pretty colourful character!
I know just what you mean about the "pushy" type of parents though, but at the end of the day, she just wants her child to do well, or to make her mark.
I also follow my gut instincts, but I never judge a book by its cover. Perhaps the woman can't afford to turn out in matching clothes - or maybe she's just colour blind, or has no fashion sense!! Still, a school's a school, not for women to parade as clothes horses., but it's true - sometimes there's no explanation for taking an instant dislike to someone.

[4getmenot]

I can look at people and their behaviour when they go out and dislike it, but I usual get to know a person and my view changes

[bigmamma]

Well I don't know why but I've taken an instant dislike to that tartan trousered mum that mrs overall described !

[daffy654]

I am usually a very good judge of character but on occasion I do take an instant dislike to people.I have yet to find myself proved wrong though.
A few years ago I was a member of an MSN group and some other members had put photos of themselves on there.there was one woman who I remarked to a friend looked a bit shifty and untrustworthy.I had no basis for this feeling/judgement,just the photo.It transpired several months later that my gut instinct about this woman was absolutely spot on.(by this time I had met her in person and still didn't like her).

[wendilla]

Yes bigmamma I am just about to go school so I hope she not got tarten trousers on lol.

[mrs_overall]

How's this for coincidence?
I've just had a call from a friend asking me to collect her son when I collect Junior O from school today.
I mentioned Young Fat Frump to her and she immediately launched into a rant.
My friend has nickednamed her "Jaws" (the woman does have a protruding lower jaw).
I asked my friend why she dislikes this woman and she admitted she couldn't say why, but said she gets the odd urge to slap her.

I feel better that it's not just me!

[Ice.Maiden]

I think it's a case of: some you do, some you don't. It's probably a basic human instinct. None of us like EVERYBODY, and tend to be drawn or attracted to those who we can identify with in some way.

[B00]

I dont think that's very fair at all, I happen to love my tartan trollies :-(

[daffy654]

Can I just say mrs.o that I am a mouth breather because of my emphysema(I can't get enough air into my lungs through my nose) and am aware that it makes me look a bit thick,but i'm really quite an intelligent person(most of the time) :-)

[LoftyLottie]

Well animals take instant dislike to other animals so why can't we. I think it might be a 'type' we instantly dislike rather than a person, usually associated with the way they dress, mannerisms, etc, e.g Mrs O's rainbow woman. And I agree, sometimes it's just because they look like somebody we already don't like.

[bigmamma]

Oi BB , your not the lady who rammed that thing into the back of my ankles last week are you ?

[LoftyLottie]

Also, agree we usually like people we can identify with - in my case old ladies who are a bit dithery and forgetful (like me today!)

[bigmamma]

Where the.......did BB come from ....doh...BOO *

[tiggerblue10]

I used to be like that but I have tried to change. There was a person who I worked with but never spoke because I thought she did not like me. We got chatting in the tea room one day when we were alone and became friends from then on. I try not to pre-judge people anymore.

[B00]

lol sorry BM, I meant trollies as in trousers. I'm not in my shopper on wheels stage of life yet, though I have to admit to secretly wanting one!

[mrs_overall]

daffy, I'm sorry if my remark offended you.
My oldest sis has emphysema and she doesn't look simple either!

I was just trying to describe this woman and should have mentioned that as well as being a mouth breather her tongue lolls out over her bottom lip when she is concentrating.