Why Would A Married Man Hold A Daily Conversation With A Female He Used To Date?

[honeybun35]

My friend calls me all the time in ref to a man she has known since 1990. They hadn't seen each other until she bumped into him a function in 09. They both were married but she has divorced in 2011. He is still married and they had sex in 2014. She tells me this all the time don't know what to say. He is happily married him and his wife brought nice house in 2016. He told me friend they grew apart.

The couple lives at least 6 hours south of where she lives.When he comes to town he never attempts to see my friend. The puzzling thing is these 2 communicate all the time through facebook messenger.They talk on a daily and this have been going on for yrs. I do say he is faithful to his wife because he never sees my friend. Now reason for my post because she ask me about it I think he is just being entertained and he just need something to do in spare time. I will add they chat til they fall asleep probably 1 am and will began again like 6 am when getting up for work. I am in because she put in her situation so I just need to get other opinions as well.

[Sqad]

///////The couple lives at least 6 hours south of where she lives.When he comes to town he never attempts to see my friend. ///////

I don't believe it.⁸

[Mozz71]

He clearly isn't "happily married". Sounds to me as if he's a bit of a creep.

[Mamyalynne]

I would politely tell my friend to stop bending my ear about it,all sounds rather childish.

[Mozz71]

//How about keeping your nose out of things that concern you?//

Nothing wrong with showing concern for a friend Nails.

[nailit]

honeybun posted an equelly bizzare post earlier...
//https://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/Question1723919.html//

[Chinajan]

What exactly does your friend always ask you? Your post doesn't make that clear.

[alavahalf]

This 'Friend' .. it isn't you is it ?

[honeybun35]

OK clearly some of you are hard headed and if you read the whole post you will see that I said she gets me involved . Was that part not understood? I made that point very clear because I knew that reaction was coming and you still want to avoid what I said. If you cannot honor that you don't have to answer my question I will ignore you.

[eve1974]

Hmmm possibilities:

1) he’s either stringing her along during bored moments (ie online when he can’t sleep etc) or...

2) He is seeing her when he comes to town n she’s keeping it quiet

3) He genuinely is interested in her physically and Cos he doesn’t want to cheat on his wife he keeps his distance when he comes to town Cos he doesn’t trust himself to not act on his impulses

4) He’s nothing more than an online friend n your mate prob fancies him more than he fancies her?

My gut instinct wld be 1) but obv no one but they 2 of them know the truth

As for this “they’ve grown apart melarkey” good chance is it’s simply him saying that n wifey has no idea believing all is well at home

[honeybun35]

She is always asking if she should still continue her friendship with him and what should she do. He also gets jealous when she have a guy that she is seeing. Yes for the above it is friend if it were me I'd say it was for me. This is a message board you are all strangers so why should I pretend.

[Peter Pedant]

what ?

[woofgang]

I would remove yourself from the conversations and decline to discuss it.

[Peter Pedant]

// Let's all stop wasting our time on this one.//
this makes me want to listen to trump on the grounds he has sometging to say

[albaqwerty]

Why does she always ask? If she's happy with the way things are in that friendship, then carry on. If she's not, then don't.
Would have thought it was quite simple.

[Chinajan]

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[Cloverjo]

Sounds alright to me. I have the occasional sexy text with an ex, but nothing’s going to happen. It’s just a bit of fun. If Husband was doing it too I’d be more than annoyed though

[honeybun35]

Wow that answer would make sense more than anything thanks.