Nativity play - really long sorry!

[Eeeek]

Today I am so sad. Last week my daughters nursery had asked me to take a change of clothes for her today, something a bit dressy, for the nativity play. When I reminded her this morning that her "party clothes" were in the bag she was telling me the mums were coming along to watch & i kept saying "no sweetheart we havent been invited". Anyway, this morning I drop her off and see a tiny sentance on the notice board saying their is a nativity play at 11am and parents are welcome. I am so gutted, I work full time and theres no way I could get time off at such short notice. I feel really sad and like I have let my daughter down but I am annoyed at the nursery for not making it clear the play was happening. I was thinking I would do something special with her tonight to make up for it, or should i just let it go?

[loopey]

i know how you feel, i was going to have a picnic at school parents and kids in the summer, but it rained, i phoned the school and the staff who answered said it had been cancelled so i didnt go when i picked my son up he was devastated cos they'd had it after all in the classroom and i wasnt there i was so cross i went storming into the heads office and burst into tears cos i felt so mad and guilty ( how embarrassing), i'm sure your daughter will understand how about making up your own nativity tonight at home.

[maggie01]

I don't have an answer but I am really sorry you missed it. Our manager always sends a letter out telling the parents when our pre-school play will be and we also do it on two seperate days so it gives everyone a chance to see it. I think maybe I would ask her how she enjoyed it but I don't think I would make too much fuss of it. Children quickly forget. I hope next time they give you some notice.

[Solarjunkie]

Let it go. Much better that she accepts your simple explanation (as you listen to her detailed description) that this time you couldn't come, sometimes in the future you will be able to and sometimes not.

You don't want to lay any foundations of "guilt presents" for the future!

Make a mental note to read everything on the notice board, and to listen to your daughter if she insists on something. Even if she is mistaken (you need to check!) it shows you give her the respect that you expect from her.

Least fuss, soonest mended.