Is it ungrateful to be annoyed!!??

[annie0000]

A friend of the kids mother contacted me yesterday as she wanted to take my two out for the day as company for her son. She was taking them to a country park and then swimming. After a bit of to-ing and fro-ing she said she'd pick them up at 12.30 but would message me when she was leaving. Anyway, as they were going out, didn't take them to cinema this morning, didn't bother to tell them to have a shower as they were swimming. Then I get a text saying no swimming as her son has a cough.....and I am still waiting for them to be picked up! I offered to drop them off but she made a big thing of me getting a day to myself.

Kids have been sitting ready to go for an hour now and I am getting really anoyed - what a waste of a day!!!

[annie0000]

I'll give her 10 minutes then I am taking them to the pool myself. What is it with people??

[NOX]

Seems a bit of a storm in a teacup annie tbh- things happen, plans change, it's just one of those things:)

[tonyav]

And breathe, i'm sure she will turn up in a mo.

[anneasquith]

family crisis ?

[annie0000]

.....just fed up that I change plans to suit someone else, who then makes out they are doing me a favour and kids caught in the middle waiting for a day out. We are supposed to be on holiday and feel the day has been wasted hanging about. She has my number if there was a problem then she should let me know.

[mccfluff]

she would of known this morning her lad had a cough, wouldn't of taken a few secs just to let annie know

[NOX]

Well if it upsets you that much just say no next time, problem solved. I'm sure she won't try to be nice again then.

[annie0000]

yeah, wasn't that fussed that she changed her plan becasue son has cough - it's the fact that she said just country park and that's fine but kids moping about waiting for their friend.

[annie0000]

Nox, I will say no - my other half took her boy away to the rugby on Saturday, but he turned up when he said he would :o)

[annie0000]

I just can't be bothered with people who don't stick to what they say when kids are involved.

[anneasquith]

send her a txt, say your boys are fed-up and you are going to the pool.

[EvianBaby]

Nobody I know with kids sticks to agreed times. It's something I thought we all just had to live with.

[vulcan]

I'm with you annie, I cannot stand people who are selfish with my time. I have a friend who is always 15 to 30 minutes late, If I'm 2 minutes late she's on the mobile.

[anneasquith]

i dont know what is big thing is anyway............... im waiting on the GAS MAN! :) :)

[vulcan]

Apologies to annie, this is for anneasquith

[Old_Geezer]

It is inconsiderate of her, regardless of what happened to mess up the plans, she should keep you better informed. Things can change unexpectedly but if you let folk know your intent has been foiled and why, then they are more understanding.

And it's frustrating for you as you changed your plans just to see everything go awry ensuring you made the wrong decisions. But life is less stressful if you take a deep breath, perhaps even count to ten, or ten million if necessary, and tell yourself to chill out. Ultimately getting riled only harms you. Sorts nothing.

Do as anne suggested, wait what you consider long enough, and then tell her the kids are restless and so you are off with them. It's fair enough, she needs to be at least as understanding as yourself about the situation.

[annie0000]

well I am always on time or let people know and most of the kids friends are the same. She has just turned up and picked them up but now they need to go back to her house so that she can change her shoes!!! That's a round trip of 13 miles to come and get them to end up back where she started!! If ahe had phoned me I would have dropped them off.

Don't think she means to be annoying but if I am doing something I like to be up and at it.......I don't think we'll be friends!! lol

My kids have friends, it's her son that struggles so I understand why she wants to encourage the friendship with my two but think I'll need to make the arrangemnets from now on!

[anneasquith]

LOL, thanks vulcan :)