Good Ways To Handle Situations Like This Is Needed?

[inamuddle1]

I'm pee'd off. A girl from work arranged to meet me last week, and together we were going to go to another friends house, and hang out on the terrace on a nice sunny day. The plan was that I would meet her at the corner of the street beside the church. I waited, i continued to wait. I phoned her... "oh i'm already at Sally's house," she said. She literally left me waiting in the street, didnt phone me or anything...

THEN TODAY IN WORK... the same girl... (I went for an interview for a different job today) decided she would tell people about my business, putting my current employment in trouble, by telling my boss i was at an interview.

Telliing you, being left on the street waiting i can handle. But speaking about my business to people really gets right up my noes. It's annoyed me. I'm trying not to make mountains out of mole hills, but to be honest it's boiled my blood. And she always say's, oh, it was a misunderstanding.... I'm telling you, i could throttle her!!!

Good ways to handle situations like this is needed,,, any ideas? I quite literally feel differnt about her and no longer want anything to do with her, she is not trustworthy in my book. Bloody hell, grrr. Let of steam, let of steam, let off steam hahah thanks x

[factor-fiction]

The first thing is don't tell her anything in future you wouldn't want her to pass on. Second, if you do tell someone something then make it clear whether they need to keep it secret

[Canary42]

Throttling her seems most appropriate to me.

[EcclesCake]

You told a work colleague that you were going for an interview.

You describe her as a girl for work so she is clearly just a colleague and not a friend. You have been naive in what you have shared.

Get over it and move on.

[inamuddle1]

She totally knew it was a secret. She actually said, oh i would tell our boss if it was me.... It's not you, it's me, and i wouldnt. Grrr. I will not tell her anything again, but the damage is done now. She's just a gossip, and i think she's bored.

[boxtops]

I wouldn't have told her in the first place. She seems very unreliable and doesn't understand about confidences. Drop her.

[inamuddle1]

No, trust me, i wouldnt have told her anything, but she was in the room when i was given contct details for the job in the first place. This is how she found out, not by my part... I'm so secretive. I come on here to tell my secrets haha :)

[sunny-dave]

Feed her some totally spurious (and provably false) information - wait until it's passed on and then knock the rumour flat ... people do learn about leaking secrets if they are made to look a prat.

[inamuddle1]

yes, move on I shall, but can i just let off some steam first! :D

[inamuddle1]

hahaha Sunny Dave, what would you suggest haha?

[sunny-dave]

Details of the boss's GUM clinic appointment?

[DaisyNonna]

Just totally ignore her. No "Good morning" or "Hallo".
If she tries to make conversation, walk away without an acknowledgement.
Do not get drawn into a conversation where she wants to n
know why. She will only twist your answers and gossip about you again.

[inamuddle1]

Well, that's the thing, the boss really does have a gum clinic appointment, so i couldnt tell her that. The boss is my friend. that is another reason why i'm so upset about her telling him. I tell you though, mountains out of mole hills. Keep it in prospective i'm telling myself.... Would be a good one though! :D x

[inamuddle1]

Maybe I'll just remove her from my facebook account, and if she asks why, I'll tell her, it's because i dont trust you. That is basically it. x

[woofgang]

If the boss is really your friend, why are you keeping the job interview a secret? You really are in a muddle aren't you?

[inamuddle1]

OK... steam has been truly let off, and thank goodness I feel better about the situation. I have now told my boss I went for an interview, and yes he is my friend. everything is A.OK. and life feels brighter now... Yes I am just home from the pub, hic hic up! Bona nit x