Confident Crisis

[ansme]

I'm having a confidence crisis and I dont know how to snap out of it and its driving me mad.

I've recently had a major operation which thankfully went well but it's just made me realise there are so many things I want to do in life before I settle down with my boyfriend of 5 years. i.e. travel.

I tried to talk to him about it this morning and I get the impression he thinks its the end of us because I said I would go travelling/working abroad whether he was coming or not and that it was his choice to come with me. I dont see why I should sacrifice things I want to do because I'm in a relationship because I know I'll resent it in the long run.

I might be part of a couple but I'm still me and I've changed a lot since I met him and we got together and I just miss who I was. Anyone whos seen SATC think a Samantha turned Charlotte who just wants to be Samantha...although I want to be Samantha with the boyfriend in tow.

The bf is an amazing bloke we haven't really argued and we get on amazing I know I want to be with him

I feel like I've been given a second chance in life and I need to make the most of it...in fact this will be the third chance in life the operation is the second major thing to happen. the first was surviving a bombing in 2005.

I've been unable to get to the gym and I'm still unable to do so because of my op and I'm gaining weight now as well, whic his making me feel physically unattractive and to be honest dont like the thought of s*x although I am still very much physically attracted to him I just have no s*x drive. I've NEVER felt like this I've always been a confident person and never cared what anyone else thought of me but suddenly since the op it's all just changed suddenly and I dont know why and nor do I know how to stop feeling like this...whats going on?

[ansme]

...And this is todays star sign:

It's hard to think clearly right now. You've got so many conflicting emotions that you don't know which path to take. On one hand, you want to pursue an exciting career opportunity. On the other, your personal life demands attention. Ultimately, you'll have to sacrifice one area to supplement another. Don't make the mistake of doing the noble thing, or you will be filled with resentment later. The time has come to please yourself.

I'm a PISCES by the way in case that helps anyone with their answers.

Thanks

[mimie]

Hi ansme,
First of all, I hope that you are starting to feel better healthwise. Although it seems to me that you need to get yourself totally well before making any big decisions! If you have your heart set on travelling try compromising with your bf - see if he is willing to go for a shorter time, perhaps he is comitted to his job, but could take a leave of absence. You need to look into it more............where to go, how long for etc. However if he is dead set against it you will resent him in the long run if you don't go. Give him some time and get some brochures to whet his appetite!!!! Good luck!

[mrs_overall]

Where have all the other answers gone?????