how do i get her back or what should i do

[silentshadow]

ok me and this girl were going out for 6 months we were so happy and loved each other so much and were perfect for eachother.....but one day she said she wants to take a break she said only for 2 days.. she just want some space and time ....about one day passes and she said she doesnt know she just wants space and time and said it will be awhile...so i said why do you need space she said i read her text and look at her myspace and never give her privacy and i said im sorry i only did it because i love you and dont want to loose you....so a few days pass and i begin to be a idiot and send her text that say i love you so much and cant live with out you please take me back and stuff like that....she says she just wants to be single now.......she eventualy starts ignoring me and then i asked her what i did that was so wrong she said i just never gave her space or privacy...thats when i asked for a second chance because i gave her one once be for and i said i will change i promise and she doesnt respond back......then when i finaly get her to call me i guilt trip her all to hell then end up hanging up...she found this new guy that she told me she has been hanging with....and she puts her status as i had the best time ever...just so i will c it and recently i came to my sences and went and droped off everything she has ever given me to make her think that she is loosing me.....and then i ignor her...the girl still loves me and i know this....but then 2 days later she text me and say she has a issue...i said what and she said she thinks she might be pregnant.....with my kid....this would ruin everythign with that guy she likes and everything with her parents trusting her...........she said she just needs time to think....and i dont know what to do or how to get her back and i am so confused......

[daniela31]

First of all....always use a condom, then there will be no chance of getting anyone pregnant.
secondly, the best way to win this girls heart is to do as she asks and stop pestering her, if she thinks you are not interested anymore it will make her keen.
thirdly, offer to stand by her in any decissions she makes about the baby. promise you will always be there for the child and offer any financial support for the baby.
Offer to go with her to tell her parents what has happened and make sure that they know you will do all you can to help support the baby.

And stop looking at her private things.

[daniela31]

I agree with raggyroman here. you have to get some sort of assurance from dates or scans that indeed the child is yours.

I wasn't going to mention this actually RR, but you could be right.

[logic]

daniala, using a condom now is like bbolting the stable door, You say do as she asks, that's one sided, stop pestering yes.if this guy has reason to be suspicious of his girlfrien, and oviously he has, then it's natural for him to snoop, esp iff she won't come clean, and it sounds to me, like this wanting more time, space thing is a cover up for the other guy,
if he's going to make a commitment to the baby, he should make sure it's his first,
Sounds to me like this girls playing the field, and as things are he is better off as a spectator,

I would stand back and let her decide for herself, without presure from myself,
otherwise he will be grovelling forever.

[daniela31]

I agree about the standing back. that's what I said for him to do, also to make sure the child is his. :-)

You also need to try and talk to someone close to you about this and see if you can get any help from a sympathetic friend or sister or aunt or someone you could confide in.

[daniela31]

I feel sorry for the boy actually RR. everone thinks that it's only girls that have relationship problems, but it's blokes too isn't it?
and where-as girls can talk to their mates....who does a boy talk to?

[daniela31]

I can't believe I am actually having a reasonable conversation with you RR.....lol and that you are agreeing with me! Am I one of the 5% then?

[daniela31]

yes...or something I read from someone else....can't remember who now...but you are said to think that 95% of women are mad...or loopy or something like that.....lol.

I have to agree with you there though, there are some women who give ALL women a bad name..
:-)

[logic]

A,,HEMM,,,


how do you put red faces on here ?.

[daniela31]

explain yourself please logic....I am a woman....I don't understand what you are talking about
;-)

[daniela31]

Thank you so much Raggy I am honoured.
:-)

I think we have mucked up this poor blokes thread between us though....oooppppsss.

[daniela31]

(whispers)....your secret is safe with me.
:-)

[hopefully86]

Whoa, you have a lot of twists and turns! First off, you kind of went overboard (no offense) and us women tend to be turned off when a guy pleads and whines. Also it can be annoying when someone's going through your stuff because they don't trust you!!! How would you feel honestly, if the tables were turned?

Second, if she's pregnant, tell her you want a paternity test because no offense again, but this girl sounds like she gets around a little. Not a sl*t, but definitely not a one-guy girl. If the baby's yours, and she wants to be with this other guy, AND she keeps it, then it'll be messy with child support and whatnot.

Basically you can't do much until you sit down and talk to her. You need to have all the facts before you can make any steps forward. You have told her you want her back, so that's really up to her at this point. If she chooses the other dude, then you'll have to move on! Honestly I'm hoping the kid's NOT yours because that could become the stuff of Jerry Springer..