Hi Prudie,
You're quite right. If you want to keep the car and it makes you happy to have it looking good then it's academic whether you recoup the cost of a respray whenever you come to sell the vehicle. I've given this analagy before but it's the same as you deciding to re-decorate your house or re-plan your garden. If you aren't planning to move then you'll never get the thousands of pounds back when you eventually come to sell - so why bother? The point is that if you want to spend your money on your home because it makes you feel better then who's to say "you must be mad, the 'ouse ain't worf it". So why do people think they can say the same about your car? You asked these clowns about how to get your car resprayed - you didn't want their opinion about the economics of doing so.
Not to mention that these 'men' you talk about are such financial genii that they happily take out huge finance plans to purchase cars which then lose thousands of pounds the moment they drive away from the dealer! They then lose money every day until the cars are worth a fraction of the original price while they continue to pay the finance plus vast amounts of interest. Then of course, they trade the car in once it's lost all it's value - and start all over again with another! Do you really think it's worth listening to anyone with such limited financial sense that they spend years paying interest they'll never recover?
If you want to spend your money on your car so that it looks good and you feel good Prudie, then you do so. You'll never get the money back, but you'll feel good driving the car so of course it'll be worth it.