Would I Be Wrong?

[TWR]

My only Grandson will be 19 the end of this month, he's one of these "I want I want" for the last few years I have given him Money for his Birthday / Christmas as I mentioned in a post the other day, not once has he phoned up to say thank you, my wife has said "Oh that's the way he is" Yet my 2 Granddaughters pick the phone only for a few mins & thanked me, would I be in order by just giving him a CARD ONLY? would I be wrong in doing this or would you just say, well that's the way he is? I'm not a tight old fart by any means but his attitude annoys me.

[Sqad]

"That's the way he is " is just a cop out.
He is bad mannered and taking you for an idiot....taking you for granted. His parents should also take some of the blame in his upbringing.....ill disciplined.....a common modern problem amongst children.
He deserves a card and nothing else.....and he can think of granddad whatever he liked. No thank you....no money.

[ummmm]

And what would your wife say?

[snags]

^ What he said. I'd give the card a miss too. Ungrateful git.

[237SJ]

What do his parents think? My Mum would have nagged me until I sat down and wrote a thank you note.

[NoMercy]

I think a card with nothing in it should send a resounding message.

[TWR]

Ummmm, ( Hope you are better?) she disagrees with me & said I should sent him a card, I think otherwise.x

[Tilly2]

He might then ring you and ask if you've forgotten to put the money in with the card. Then you can tell him off!

[Prudie]

I think send a card but no money. I also think his parents should have played a part in teaching him to thank you.

[Old_Geezer]

I think it depends on the parents. I was never expected to write thank yous but I appreciated the gifts anyway. Was surprised when older and found out others had been told they must. I'd thank someone who was present but not otherwise. That said "no one" could afford a phone in them days. If it annoys you then say something to him. He may not know that you are getting uptight about it.

[Patsy33]

If I was your wife I'd have a word with grandson to remind him to say thank you to you. It is very hurtful. Nobody should have to remind him, but if it's not coming from his own heart, then I'm afraid there's not a lot you can do. I bet if you just send a card with no money, you'll see his true colours.He'll soon find his voice! Don't mean to upset you but like you said his attitude is to expect with no thanks. That's how some young ones are these days unfortunately.

[Old_Geezer]

That said, by the age of 19, he might have cottoned on himself.

[DTCwordfan]

Pay the postage in enclosing a one or two pound coin with your card (from the Pound Shop), that should make an 'impression'.....

[Mamyalynne]

It's a shame he has not been taught to thank people, if he goes through life with that expectancy whilst offering nothing in return he'll be short of friends.

You must do as you feel is right.

[jno]

give him what you like. Nobody is entitled to presents. A card should be plenty if that's what you're happy giving.

[TWR]

OG, I will not phone as I do not think I should, If I did I would give him both barrels, I do not like that avenue.

[TWR]

Mam, I've always been a person to say thank you, I was never brought up that way, but that's the way I am, It was just an opinion I wanted.

[EcclesCake]

No he's an adult. As soon as my young relatives hit adulthood gifts are stopped.

[Old_Geezer]

Age issue. I tried to stop at 18, forgot I was supposed to have done (!), tried to stop again at 21. Felt guilty anyway, although I don't think my niece & nephew were that bothered.

[yogi-bear]

Just a card, TWR.... no money or gift vouchers now....he has had plenty of chances to ring you in the past and say "Thanks Grandad and Grandma", as manners cost nothing......he might learn a lesson.

[TWR]

The same lad I'd taken for his Pre Test Exam, I tried to give him some advise, was told I know what I'm doing, 5 Tests later he passed, but that's another story.