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At This Point Of My Life, What Do You Folks Think I Should Do With My Unwanted Obsession With This Girly/cutesy Japanese Idol Group To End It All Internal Struggling?
(DISCLAIMER: I'm sure you failiar folks get the memo, and probably are angry that I'm posting this subject again. But I am serious when I post this, because it's a problem that I have been having for a long time now. So if you want to help, I would appreciated it. If not, Go one with your day)
I, an American adult male, seem to have this strong unwanted interest with Japanese idol girl group group, Momoiro Clover Z (MCZ). They are my biggest guilty pleasure ever to the point where they are honestly my top artists/group right now..GAHH, IT HURTS TO SAY THAT!!
It's EXTREME:Y difficult to live your life following this type of act in America or anywhere on the Western side (because that's the situation I am in right now). The fact that this type of girly/cutesy entertainment isn't around in America or anywhere on the Western side of the Globe (unlike Japan)makes this situation even MORE dangerous for me. As well as the fact that the fan bases of girl groups in the West (Spice Girls/Fifth Harmony) are made up of mostly teenage females (unlike in Japan). To prove it, hear and listen to the crowd differences between a Fifth Harmony show and an MCZ show:
[MCZ] vs. [Fifth Harmony]
So yeah, for some uncontrollable reason, I seem to have a strong interest to MCZ (to the point where I can't seem to go without a day of listening to their music/watching their funny bits/following their posts/buying DVDs/etc), despite the fact that 1) I DO NOT WANT to have this interest and feel ashamed that I (an America adult male) has this strong of an interest for such a group and 2) It's an interest that can EASILY turn off folks here in the West and can make you a VERY EASY target to be assaulted both verbally and physically. Even if I try to ignore the folks who do such things to me or ask/tell them to "Stop!" (either kindly or confidently), they attack me because they don't to be ignored or told to be stop.
And in case you ask "how do they know you have such interests?" - I never even have tried to tell or show folks about it (why would I if I know it can lead to even MORE assault)? They find out because they see me or overhear me watching/listening to them. Plus, when you live with folks for such a long time (like family or friends), there's not many things you can do to avoid it from them when you are with them for a such a long time. They are bound to know that you have a particular interest in something when you both live with them AND follow that interest for a while.
That's one of the many reasons why there are my biggest guilty pleasure, as well as these 5 reasons:
- 1) It's something you felt uneasy/negative about at first, but then ended up liking for some reason.
- 2) It's something that would lead to physical (as well as verbal/mental) assaults no matther how much you try to defend/ignore
- 3) It's an interest that you know is flawed/has its faults, yet you like it because you can't help such a feeling. For example, a song with full racial/sexist lyrics. You may be aware that the song is heavily flawed for its sexual/racial lyrics, and end up thinking “Damn, they are right about this criticism", but you can't stop listening to it! (I could also use Nicki Minaj's Anaconda video as an example for males, because such a "seemingly" objeciifying video may still get males sexually aroused to the point of wanting more of it.
- 4) I'm liking something that is “out of character/different in personality and approach" compare to yourself. Like this metal guy who admits to liking some pop acts!
- 5) You are the minority of a fan base that is filled with your opposite gender (like a male liking Justin Bieber/1D/Taylor Swift/boy bands/etc.)
Now that I confess to you folks about this, I'm asking advice to know what should I do about my UNWANTED fandom with this group? Should I put the extra effort to not follow this group at all? Should I continue to follow them despite me n
I, an American adult male, seem to have this strong unwanted interest with Japanese idol girl group group, Momoiro Clover Z (MCZ). They are my biggest guilty pleasure ever to the point where they are honestly my top artists/group right now..GAHH, IT HURTS TO SAY THAT!!
It's EXTREME:Y difficult to live your life following this type of act in America or anywhere on the Western side (because that's the situation I am in right now). The fact that this type of girly/cutesy entertainment isn't around in America or anywhere on the Western side of the Globe (unlike Japan)makes this situation even MORE dangerous for me. As well as the fact that the fan bases of girl groups in the West (Spice Girls/Fifth Harmony) are made up of mostly teenage females (unlike in Japan). To prove it, hear and listen to the crowd differences between a Fifth Harmony show and an MCZ show:
[MCZ] vs. [Fifth Harmony]
So yeah, for some uncontrollable reason, I seem to have a strong interest to MCZ (to the point where I can't seem to go without a day of listening to their music/watching their funny bits/following their posts/buying DVDs/etc), despite the fact that 1) I DO NOT WANT to have this interest and feel ashamed that I (an America adult male) has this strong of an interest for such a group and 2) It's an interest that can EASILY turn off folks here in the West and can make you a VERY EASY target to be assaulted both verbally and physically. Even if I try to ignore the folks who do such things to me or ask/tell them to "Stop!" (either kindly or confidently), they attack me because they don't to be ignored or told to be stop.
And in case you ask "how do they know you have such interests?" - I never even have tried to tell or show folks about it (why would I if I know it can lead to even MORE assault)? They find out because they see me or overhear me watching/listening to them. Plus, when you live with folks for such a long time (like family or friends), there's not many things you can do to avoid it from them when you are with them for a such a long time. They are bound to know that you have a particular interest in something when you both live with them AND follow that interest for a while.
That's one of the many reasons why there are my biggest guilty pleasure, as well as these 5 reasons:
- 1) It's something you felt uneasy/negative about at first, but then ended up liking for some reason.
- 2) It's something that would lead to physical (as well as verbal/mental) assaults no matther how much you try to defend/ignore
- 3) It's an interest that you know is flawed/has its faults, yet you like it because you can't help such a feeling. For example, a song with full racial/sexist lyrics. You may be aware that the song is heavily flawed for its sexual/racial lyrics, and end up thinking “Damn, they are right about this criticism", but you can't stop listening to it! (I could also use Nicki Minaj's Anaconda video as an example for males, because such a "seemingly" objeciifying video may still get males sexually aroused to the point of wanting more of it.
- 4) I'm liking something that is “out of character/different in personality and approach" compare to yourself. Like this metal guy who admits to liking some pop acts!
- 5) You are the minority of a fan base that is filled with your opposite gender (like a male liking Justin Bieber/1D/Taylor Swift/boy bands/etc.)
Now that I confess to you folks about this, I'm asking advice to know what should I do about my UNWANTED fandom with this group? Should I put the extra effort to not follow this group at all? Should I continue to follow them despite me n
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You can't have an 'unwanted obsession' - it's simply not possible.
If you like this group - even to the point of obsession, then that's fine, I fail to see a problem.
All this nonsense about being 'assaulted' for your musical taste is just that - nonsense, and you know it.
No-one knows what music you like unless you tell them, so if you are worried about not seeming 'cool' to your friends, when they ask, say you love Metallica, and change the subject.
Better still, enjoy whatever music you like, and stop squashing the joy out of it with pointless blathering to strangers about nonsense that does not exist outside your fevered imagination.
If you like this group - even to the point of obsession, then that's fine, I fail to see a problem.
All this nonsense about being 'assaulted' for your musical taste is just that - nonsense, and you know it.
No-one knows what music you like unless you tell them, so if you are worried about not seeming 'cool' to your friends, when they ask, say you love Metallica, and change the subject.
Better still, enjoy whatever music you like, and stop squashing the joy out of it with pointless blathering to strangers about nonsense that does not exist outside your fevered imagination.
I'm awake, (just has been out for a while).
But andy-hughes, there IS a thing called an unwanted obsession. It's when you get into something that isn't good for you physically and/or mentally, but you can't seem to stop when you have every valid reason to do so. (I compared it to a drug addiction for example: You shouldn't take them because it does so much physical harm to you, yet you can't escape that addicting feeling that comes with it).
And me being a Western adult male who lives with folks around his age in School/College ((who are not known for having airhead/idiotic tendencies, didn’t grew up with any speech/mental disabilities or obstacles, had the luxuries to live a normal adult life like a license, car, job, money, house (the first two I just got recently), and were able to sexually attract a lot folks because of it, were incredibly popular because of their skills in any popular major (sports for example), listen to the music that happens is the cool thing for everyone else and avoid the music that would get them bullied, and are physically and mentally strong and capable of defending themselves for any assault))...There is a side of me that thinks I should stop before more harm is done, but I can't seem to do so, making them my biggest guilty pleasure?
So that's why I ask, what should I do?
But andy-hughes, there IS a thing called an unwanted obsession. It's when you get into something that isn't good for you physically and/or mentally, but you can't seem to stop when you have every valid reason to do so. (I compared it to a drug addiction for example: You shouldn't take them because it does so much physical harm to you, yet you can't escape that addicting feeling that comes with it).
And me being a Western adult male who lives with folks around his age in School/College ((who are not known for having airhead/idiotic tendencies, didn’t grew up with any speech/mental disabilities or obstacles, had the luxuries to live a normal adult life like a license, car, job, money, house (the first two I just got recently), and were able to sexually attract a lot folks because of it, were incredibly popular because of their skills in any popular major (sports for example), listen to the music that happens is the cool thing for everyone else and avoid the music that would get them bullied, and are physically and mentally strong and capable of defending themselves for any assault))...There is a side of me that thinks I should stop before more harm is done, but I can't seem to do so, making them my biggest guilty pleasure?
So that's why I ask, what should I do?
MM305 - // So that's why I ask, what should I do? //
You'll understand if I don't bother responding any more.
If you think liking a pop band equates to a drug addiction then you have some seriously strange ideas.
Like them if you do, don't if you don't.
If you are embarrassed or ashamed, tell no-one.
OK - that's it, I have nothing else to say on this subject.
Good luck.
You'll understand if I don't bother responding any more.
If you think liking a pop band equates to a drug addiction then you have some seriously strange ideas.
Like them if you do, don't if you don't.
If you are embarrassed or ashamed, tell no-one.
OK - that's it, I have nothing else to say on this subject.
Good luck.
kvalidir - // We're all weird, you're no exception, that's all.//
Absolutely - I bow to no-one in saying that Whigfield's Saturday Night is one of the greatest pop songs ever recorded, and if I can find a Whigfield tee-shirt on the Net, I will be wearing it at Download next year, and I don't feel weird in the slightest!!
Absolutely - I bow to no-one in saying that Whigfield's Saturday Night is one of the greatest pop songs ever recorded, and if I can find a Whigfield tee-shirt on the Net, I will be wearing it at Download next year, and I don't feel weird in the slightest!!
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