Thats What I Can't Understand. Derstand

[Sqad]

I find no difficulty in ABER's asking basic and questions of clarification concerning medical matters but I have great difficulty understanding the response to what is generally considered urgent or emergencies.
Over the years some and recently many, have responded to an emergency by coming onto AB and spewing their medical predicament over the Internet.
Why? What is to be achieved other than personal attraction for pity and sympathy of which AB is a fertile area and this maybe a reasonable response.......but not to me.
In such situations my concern would be for medical attention diagnosis and ultimately treatment..........AB would play no part in the equation.
It also often plays out, not always that within 48 hours, they are home and back on AB.
A tribute to our NHS?
Could it be that the REAL emergencies never come on AB and we are unaware of them and the one's that do are just attention seeking?

[Ken4155]

^
Spot on, Sqad :-)

[Bazile]

I wonder who for example you are referring to , sqad

[naomi24]

I agree.

[Sqad]

Bazile.....there are quite a few......in their own way and some rarely make a song and dance....

[calmck]

I think it depends on the circumstances of the poster. Living alone and waiting for assistance someone might need to reach out for some comforting words or advice. AB posters often ask if someone knows what has happened to a regular who has not posted for a while.
Squad your absence a while back promoted such posts of concern. My view is that posters should be careful what they post and read before "answering now". One poster received positive feedback re treatment for his depression and I think the experience of others can also help those in difficulties.

[Ellipsis]

You may as well write:

People ... That's What I Can't Understand ... People

[sunny-dave]

I think you may have hit the nail on the thumb, my dear sqad.

AB is great for help with chronic conditions and intractable (but not urgent) illnesses - whether that help is medical/personal/anecdotal it can be very useful - both gness and I have had help from sqad himself and from other ABers over the years.

But if I'm a bleeding heap (either literally or figuratively) then I'm dialling 999 rather than logging on here.

Take 600mg of Ibuprofen (or a large glass of malt scotch) and relax ...

[Ken4155]

By the way Sqad, i'd see the doc about that echo you have :-)

[Sqad]

calmck......they had no beneficial effect on my medical status.
" take big breaths in-"
" we will be here for you"
"I will pray for you"
"this happened to me and I am now fine"

I suppose that is the sort of thing one wants to hear, but it seems to be the same people pleading and the same people answering their prayers.

[Sqad]

Ken lol

[woofgang]

I think one doesn't exclude the other....I agree that coming on AB is secondary to getting proper medical attention but if the person is scared, maybe alone, they might want to feel that someone is there for them. It a normal enough human response and I think calling them attention seeking is harsh....comfort or reassurance seeking maybe and what is so wrong with that?

[woofgang]

lol ellipsis.....nail...head!

[douglas9401]

Sqad seems to be stating the pleading obvious. :-)

[naomi24]

Some seem to make a habit of it.

[barry1010]

If it helps calm an anxious mind I have no problem with that type of post. Waiting for medical assistance can be frightening if you are on your own and posting on AB is hardly exerting oneself.

[Sqad]

Woofy

///// and I think calling them attention seeking is harsh....comfort or reassurance seeking maybe and what is so wrong with that?/////

I didn't say that it was so wrong,I said that I didn't UNDERSTAND it.

I just feel that this sort of behaviour represents a 'slap in the teeth " for the real sufferers who choose by nature to "take it on the chin"

Just a personal view.

[Maydup]

You ask why Sqad, and the answer is that indeed real emergencies and non emergencies are happening every day; but those struggling with isolation and mental health issues often look for immediate support and tend to reach out in any directions for that.

[naomi24]

If people live alone and are worried and have no family to call I can understand it. Otherwise I can't. In an emergency the last thing I'd think of doing is posting on AB.

[MartinMillar]

The majority that do it are not alone they have families in the same house as them, I agree in some circumstances it’s nice to get an opinion if you are wasting the docs time but recently there has been a spate of such posts

[barry1010]

Some people don't want to worry their family especially if they live many miles away. Far better to let them know when things are under control than worry them when they are in no position to help.