How can we be happy agian

[Kaylz1988]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2years and I love him to bits. Ilove spending time with him and being round him. He is a really nice guy. But we argue all the time over silly things. Im quite a insecure person aswell and just recently found out hes lied to me about a couple of things. He hasnt cheated on me or anything like that but it includes a girl who is his cousins cousin and theyv'e known each other since they were young. But what bothers me is that he always goes out with his cousin and all her girlfriends and his friends and doesn't invite me! So it makes me paronoid that he has something to hide. Well Saturday just gone he went to the park and said he was going with the boys!! Later on I find out hes not only with the boys but his cousins friends too! I went mad bcoz I felt hurt that he lied to me and never invited me to. We used to be really happy hardly ever argue, but hes broke up with me twice before and since then I've lost trust in him! Its like I'm waiting for him to dump me again. I really want my relationship to work as I know this is our last chance now! Anyone got any ideas or advice? Really need it. xx

[Linzi84]

If you're in a relationship he should want to involve you in the things he does, as i'm sure you involve him. I was in a similar situation (which ended last year) I was with my bf for 4 years, after 3 years i found out he'd been lying to me about seeing this girl who he'd known since school, she was married and i know he'd not cheated, but he was going to her house every sunday and lying about where he was. I found out and since then was not able to trust him completely again. I felt betrayed, he said he lied as he thought i'd dump him?? Men are strange!! I eventually fell out of love with him. But relationships are based on trust, if there's no trust it won't work. Your bf sounds a little immature to me, as all men are!!

[cartman99]

Some men will do anything for an easy time, like not being open with who will be at the park so he doesnt get ear ache about it. If your relationship is going to survive then you must tackle this issue by bringing all your feelings out into the open, tell him how you feel and what you think it will take to change the way you feel. What are the reasons for you not being invited?, you dont have to go with him each time he sees his cousin but once would be good.

Stop seeing yourself as someone who can be dumped, he should consider himself lucky to have a lady who cares for him like you do, think of it like this, if he does not meet my expectations then im worth more than what he gives and dump him.

Sometimes things change and its better to salvage the good memories then run the relationship into the road.

Either way, best of luck to you x

[Kaylz1988]

Thanx for the advice. I'm going to give it a whirl xx

[4getmenot]

He�s basically being a typical bloke, he�s not lying but then he�s not telling you everything and that�s because blokes don�t understand why they need to tell us. If he said he was going out with blokes and girls would you mind? If the answers yes then that�s probably why he didn�t tell you. And another thing you need to realise is that when a bloke wants time without you it isn�t because he is up to anything its because he wants time away from you. Everybody needs a break. But that doesn�t mean its fair to leave you at home ALL the time. I used to see someone that left me out of everything and yes we did break up as I felt he was ashamed of me and well we were never properly together and he wouldn�t tell anyone he was seeing me. But this doesn�t mean my situation is same as yours, you say you�ve been going out for years and love each other, maybe he�s just realised he needs his own space too. Don�t take everything to heart. If you are meant to be together then you will be with him for rest of your life, enjoy the time you get to do what you want while he is out with his mates. Good Luck. xxx