ys i have only been

[chesnuts]

guys i have only been a member of the answerbank for at least 6 weeks and have loved every second of you guys. BUT>>>> I now have a scary situation or rather a normal one, but because i am insecure i just want your guys serious opinion because i am worride, insecure and scared. i asked my hubbie of 5 years how he felt about having another baby.. he very quickly answered he did not want anymore kids. wow this was news. we can not afford a kid i earn the money in the house so having a kid wud be trouble, however, that means i am 35 and wont ever have my own family.. with him.. i dont know how i fell but sadly a chat room like this helps me, becos i *** across others like me. i feel very lonely.

[LittleMissxx]

Have you both never discussed this ???P.S whats the last sentance mean ? : becos i *** across others like me . ???

[dot.hawkes]

shouldn;t you wait until both your legs are fully healed, maybe he thinks it isn;t a priority when they are both broken.
For the last 3 weeks you have had broken legs, was that just an excuse so you could be on this site more?

[Drisgirl]

From what I remember without scrolling back chesnuts has other issues apart from broken legs.

I have never doubted any of her posts and have myself posted about personal issues on here even although I have family and friends as you get a non judgemental answer/advice.

chesnuts -4 days to go and you can start the healing process -then that may be the time once you are independant and stronger to have a good hard look at your life and where its going.You would appear to be put upon so maybe you should just think -'well as far as I know i'm only here once -is this it and am I prepared to put up with it????'

[leg_end758]

well i will reserve judgement.
ive had bad comments from you for no reason.
time will tell.

i reserve judgement


cautiously

[blondie123]

Reading your other posts i think there are several issues in your realtionship that you need to discuss with your husband. There is obviously a lack of trust (re: should i be worried he sleeps with cleaner), and you say you earn the money... does he not work? and why? if i were you i would be getting him told and making him do the cleaning!!!! but you really need to discuss the issues of children, im sure your aware that benefits are available plus you will get maternity leave and your husband could look after your child! you need to think carefully about if you want children and if so do you want them with your husband?

[redcrx]

Looking at your post about stepchildren and your dog I'd say you have a lot to deal with before you can even consider having another child.

Plus, if you openly admit you cant afford it then why on earth would you think it a good idea at present?