Broken Heart

[indieanna86]

Morning guys,

My question today is, how do you deal with a broken heart? Turns out I've been cheated on for a long time by the man I loved so so much. I haven't slept at all, been crying all night, I can't eat, I just feel physically sick and I just don't know what to do with myself, I'm in such a mess.
My friends have been supportive and I'm so grateful for it, but I still feel like the whole world has just collapsed around me...

[Prangy]

Surround yourself with friends as much as possible.. stay with close loved ones, obviously you will be feeling awfully lonely and vunerable so keep close ties with anyone related and friends.
Maintain a healthy diet and concentrate on it to keep your mind off your ex, exercise helps if you can get some motivation to do it. Main thing is keep yourself busy.

Im sorry about your bad news. x

[turkey154]

I know this sounds like a complete cliche but time will definately help you cope better with this.

Right now your mind is still processing this horrible incident and it is new and raw. After you have thought things over, got through some of the emotions that are completely normal, then you will find a way to clarify what is important in your life.

Focus on you. Do what YOU feel like doing. Being with friends can help but i recommend taking time out to do something alone too, something new that you can focus on.

I am very sorry for this happening to you and i cannot begin to understand how you feel, but trust me. It will get better and this shall pass.

All the best.

[DONNA1458]

I have found this for you hope it helps....
http://www.therelationshipgym.com/how_to_get_o ver_a_break_up.htm

[joannie10]

I agree with what everyone else is saying, time does heal and I have been there. I did have great people round about me and probably did not realise just how great. Focus on all the good things. I also saw all the bad things going on in the world, tradgedys others were suffering and realised that actually my problems were nothing in comparison! Wrong of me to tell you what to do but I found myself telling myself 'get a grip and deal with it, things are not so bad' take carex

[foodluva]

Hey Indie! I've been there too - it's awful!

Listen, time does heal I promise (I used to really hate hearing that but it's soooo true). I just kept myself busy all the time. I became a bit of a gym junkie and found that pounding it out on the treadmill did wonders for my figure and worked off my emotions! I treated myself to new clothes, hairdo etc. so that I looked fab! I also talked about it to anyone who would listen and I found that helped me.

His behaviour iis no reflection on you - unfortunately some men are real scumbags! And as I'm sure you'll discover, some men are gems!!!!

Stay strong!

[Corinneh2k]

and whatever you do...stay off facebook!

[indieanna86]

Thanks for the kind words everyone, I've had the hardest day pretending I'm fine at work and reading this helps a lot.

foodluva - I decided I was going to join a gym earlier today! I'm going there right now to sign up :)

Thank you all again

[Prem]

Still better to love and lost than never to love at all. Right now you can not see the wealth of maturity you gained out of this incident.

[WhiteBear]

this has happened to me..... but i had to find out myself without any contact for a few months. but i did have my *********** though..... anyway just think that you had a lucky escape its not worth it being with someone who Cheats!! beleive me it will get easier, just think the worse of him everyday... wipe off the happy memories u had with him cos its all a fake. u will feel better that ..... u were better without him al along... just feel sorry for the next girl hes seeing....because once a Cheat always a Cheat.

remember this saying everyday:
today is a new day, yesterday.....FORGET ABOUT IT, xxx

(i got that from the kellogs advert lol )

[WhiteBear]

why is that word filtered???? i must have spelt it wrong

try again the filtered outword is:

suspicion x

[legend_mark5]

vodka



more vodka



and yet more vodka



cry yourself a river



then get stronger






you gotta feel the hurt before you can heal the hurt




hope this helps.

its from the heart.


leg x

[Whoever]

What you are suffering from is very similar to a bereavement . Accept that the loss of love hurts, no matter how it is lost and give yourself the time and space to grieve and mourn its loss. Be kind to yourself.. If necessary give yourself a short space every day for some tears in private. But remember that, hard though it may seem now, the future still exists for you and allow yourself to open up to new friends, experiences and opportunities. Try to do one positive thing every day. As somebody else has advised, keep yourself busy and active. Join your library. Start a new evening class, take up a new hobby. Write a daily diary of your feelings and every day give yourself marks out of 10 for your level of unhappiness. I hope that in six months time when you read back on earlier entries you will find that your unhappiness level has reduced remarkedly.

[MangoPete]

HI Indie, Have you tried going to a homeoath or merbalist. There is aremedy called whie chestnut. It canbe used for people to help remove themselves frompainful things likethe sting of divorce and beung cheated. Now everyone is different, but I knw that it does work for people even wqhen they are cynical about it. check it out, my dear, it may help and is not addictive like antidepressants.
All the best

[MangoPete]

Sorry homeopath or herbalist I have a cold can't sleep and am up late, good luck girl, keep it real
Px

[vrach]

This answer has a different kick to it.(It's coming from a male,that's why!).Just you wait until you meet your true soul mate,and I'm sure you will!Then you'll say what good fortune that was,the break up.Lots of fish in the sea,you know.
By the way,I like your use of the past tense("loved").It means I shall no longer love since not deserving of my love.

[flump2]

chop his balls off

hope this helps