friendship and boy problem.

[ciara louise]

my bestfriend has just got her first boyfriend. sh's really obbsessed with him and leaves all her best friends out, including, and im her proper bes friend. basically the whole boy situation hasall got to her head and im happy that shes happy but i feel left out, shes completly changed, but its not just that. i was on his bebo and a girl was speakingto him and he said he got kicked out oftwo schools and she asked why, o he said that he brought a knife into school and threatend someone and he fought with teachers. o't mean to be sterioptypical but he is a complete and utter chav. and the thing that bugs me is, that she always shes thatshe hates chavs and when im with her, she just tals to him on the phone and then when she gets f the phone se goes, o my god, how annoying!! :S and shesays hes ulgy and fat. also se tyold me tat h said when should we have sex. im really worried about the situation of the knife and sex. thers this other lad who likes her and her bf said he will hurt him and h threatened him. its not that i dont trust her, but shes the type of person who cant say no, she very shy and does what she is told. ive told her she should dump him if hes sayinn stuff like that but she just laughsit of shethinks its a joke but im concerned. and ever since she et him, she smokes and always falls ut with me..before that we had never ver has an argument. what should i do!? by the way we are 14 and her bf is 16.

[Sammy Snake]

I think you are feeling a but left out. At the start of a new relationship, alot of people tend to 'forget' their friends and give all their time and energy to their new partner.

It is not your place to start gossiping about what you have heard and telling her to dump him, to be honest at her age it will probably have the opposite effect and make her stronger with him and more likely to dump you. She will just think you are stirring up trouble.

I know you are concerned but all you can do it wait it out and be there for her when it comes to an end - which it will, hardly anybody stays with the fella they met when they were 14!!