what to do with my little boys room

[ollywilli]

I am after a little bit of advise really.

I am currently living in a two bedroom house, with my current partner who is pregnant. I also have a little boy to a previous relationship, who use to come and stay over, but due to his mother is not allowed at the moment to stay over or barely see me, but that is another storey.

We cannot maove house due to the money situation with mortgages etc, and do not have enough money in savings and neither will the family to help to put a deposit down to move house.

I am not sure what to do with my little boys room, as I may have to go through court again to get back contact with him, and if we have a girl, I am not sure what to do bedroom wise and decoration wise.

can any one help?

[redcrx]

can baby not sleep in your room for 6 months or year, which is what current guidelines suggest.
That would give you plenty of time to see where you stand re access with your son

[BeaverDiva]

neutral colours?? We're currently decorating the spare room ready for Jellybeans arrival in October. I also have a 14 year old step-daughter who stays during holidays, so we're doing neutral colours for that baby, and my step-daughter's area of the room (not that its a large room, but around her bed etc) will have her posters and teenage-girl bits & bobs there. At the end of the day, your baby isn't going to care how the room looks - so I'd stick with mutual colours for girl or boy, but put a few of your son's favourite characters around as well. You don't say how old your son is, but i'm sure then when he comes to stay, it's to see you and not the decoration anyway.

Hope it all works out well with the Court battle xx

[ollywilli]

HI thank you

he is three, and has a lot of toys at the moment!

I am not sure how the ex will take the news of a new baby coming along even though she has got a new baby, but if it was the way she was when she found out about my new partner it will not be a good time :S

[Schlomo78]

My friend had the same problem and they were also unsure about access and whether they would get it and also whether it would change on a whim. They basically got a boys Ready Bed, which they kept under their daughters bed, and when they knew he was coming every weekend they decorated half the room in dinosaur stickers on one side and when he came they put his bed and toys on that side and he felt a part of everything, when he went - as they had little room- they stored his toys in the cupboard and so their daughter still had some semblance of having her own room during the week.
Things like this are awkward and never easy, but all you can do is your best, without disrupting your other childs life too much. As it turned out, after a few months she changed her mind and stopped the little boy from going there to see his Dad, for no other reason apart from her own bitterness towards him.
Hope it works out for you mate
:)