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evedawn | 11:40 Fri 13th Aug 2010 | Jobs & Education
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Loads of you know I applied for, and go, another job recently. You alll gave lods of help with advice re interview technique etc. Now, I need your help again...BIG TIME.

Please don't judge but...

on my employment history I skipped out a particular job of 3 months. I thereafter altered my dates to cover this period but...HR have done their homewok and found out the dates don't match. It was, I ADMIT an out and out fib but this three month job (nearly 4 years ago) was awful and I tried to put it behind me. Now, I KNOW I WAS WRONG but...what do I tell NHS HR now...I said I will look into my dates and call her back. Do I admit to fibbing? Do I say that I "forgot" I was elswhere employed. OR do I say I was oout of the country / unemployed / on holiday for three months. In my experience lies compound liwes but I so don't want to lose this job :-( Alos, do you think - even if I still get this job (which now I maynot) that HR will tell my new manager.? **$£^(!! Why didn't I just tell the truth?
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I think it's probably best to thank them for pointing out that you had overlooked this job.
so as an example you were at employer a until jan 05, then left for 3 months before staring with employer B and you have stated that you were with A until mar 05?

can you not say that you went by dates you started at each and missed out the blank time by mistake.
I'd say tell the truth as lying just gets more and more complicated... but yes, the question is why you didn't tell the truth in the first place. If it was because of something that makes you totally unemployable then you've got nothing to lose by attempting further evasion.
my mistake i read it wrong.

just say you missed it by accident.
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Hmm Factor - I might do that ...but it's so obvious I was fibbing (well in my mind it is my hub says I am paranoid!) .

Red. The dates were. Employer A: March 05 until Oct 06. EMployer B: Nov 06 unntil Feb 07 . Employer C: MArch o7 till now. I left out employer B completely and altered amployer A's dates to read until Feb07. IN other words I missed out (intentionallY) the job B and extended dates of job A instead. IS anyone in AB land working in HR?

Scuse my typo's ...I'm stressing big time. :-(
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NO jno - it was nothing seroious that I left ...I didn't suit the job and the job did't suit me. I resigned and they (gladly) accepted.
If you typed it then just say it was a glitch. Tell them you have just run off a copy and it looks fine.

Say you must of printed off an earlier version and you are at a loss to explain it.
Just tell them that you left after a three month probationary period because the job was four years ago, unsuitable and that you felt it unnecessary to mention it as it had no relevance to your experience and it never became a permanent job. That is the truth. No need to lie. I have interviewed people and would accept that as totally OK. On my CV's I never put months, just years eg. 1985-1988, it made things easier. There were odd months I did temporary work or just didn't work and didn't want to go into vast explanations.
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jno - if I tell HR the truth ...do I just ring and say oh yes thosee were dates I workedat XYZ company and I purposely missed them off my CV or do I just tellthem the dates and nowt more?
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Ok Lofty - what you say is correct - it was a probation period and it didn't turn into a fulltime ongoing job but my fib is that I extended the original employment dates of my employer A) as I didn't want to show a blank period. Flipping heck...I am kicking myself now big time.
As others have said, just tell them that the date was an error, you overlooked it because of the other job not really counting towards your CV, and thank them for pointing it out.I would accept that from an applicant.
I think you might be worrying too much because you got caught out in a fib. As you have nothing else to hide there is no need to worry so much. Good luck :-)
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This is wahat I plan to say in my return email to the HR dept:

Dear Miss XYZ

Thank you for your telephone call earlier. I have popped home, (albeit briefly) in my lunch break and double checked dates etc.

Yes, it appears that the application form has an error. I did work, briefly for a company called XYZABC, I have called the branch and am awaiting a telephone call back from them to confirm the dates. This will, I am sure, account for the error on the application form. The contact details of company XYZABC are:

Etc etc etc
address address
etc, etc
address

I will contact you, (today) as soon as they ring me back, so that Ican confirm the exact dates and avoid any more confusion.



So AB'ers... what do you think before I sned the email..........
Agree with Chelle. If you are absolutely truthful I don't see a problem.
I think you're still lying and it could all go tits up. I would pretty much follow Lofty's advice to the letter.
That sounds fine. I'd believe you..
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No China, the email I plan on sending doesn't fib, at all. It just point out that they, (HR) are correct and that there are dates unaccountable for. Due to that I am sending them the details of the employer, (for that inbetween period|) and they can confir with them the dates. There is nothing else on my CV that was unture, they have copies o all my certs etc. I also know, (because I saw it) that my current employer gave me a lovely reference and she mentioed in the ref that I am a very honest person, (and I NORMALLY am I shouldn't have tried to hide those three months employed elsewhere)
I too would stick with my advice!

They don't need to know who the employer was just that it was for three months and didn't work out and was not relevant to your CV.
I'm not trying to upset you eve, I just think that if I receieved that email, I would think it a little strange, not that you omitted a work history but you also got the dates wrong. Wheras Lofty's advice of what to say, I would think sounded reasonable. I think basically what I'm saying is keep it simple really.
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ahh lofty it is with the nhs and they will need to confirm every employer, CRB etc. So I can't really get away with not giving them the details.
However, if you are more comfortable with your email, then I think you should send it. You are right, you are not lying and which ever route you take I am afraid that it does look as if you were trying to cover up that three months. You haven't however, done anything that would make me question your abilities or honesty.

I would mention in your email though that the job was only on a trial basis and you left because it didn't meet your expectations.

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