What would you do?

[boona]

Evening all,
A lady at church offered to knit my little girl a cardigan so I said that would be lovely. When it was finished she presented it in a carrier bag and the reciept for the wool was inside. Now, I was going to get her a thankyou card and a little box of chocs, but now I have seen the reciept Im not sure if she is just expecting the money? It isnt a lot (only £7) but I dont want to give her the money and offend her if that wasnt her intention!
Im going to church tomorrow and she will probably be there, what would you do?

[sherrardk]

Just give her the money - she wasn't backward in coming forward with asking for the money so I wouldn't be coy about giving it to her.

[Mojo-Jo-Jo]

Put the money in the card

[mumof3angels]

I would give her the card and chocs as you were going to do. If she offered to knit it in the first place it's a bit cheeky to expect you to pay for the wool (if that's her intention with leaving the receipt in tha bag). Bit of a strange thing to do though.

[micmak]

I think she wants the money plus an amount for the work she has put into it. Otherwise why would she put the receipt in the bag. Beware of people offering their services, not many people do things for free.

[boona]

Maybe the money in the card is a good idea but to be honest I thought it was a lttle cheeky because she offered!!

[4getmenot]

she didnt ask for the money and she offered to knit it. Was the receipt for same shop as bag? I myself would get thankyou card she cant say you're being ungrateful then can she?

[sherrardk]

People are strange though - a friend said she had a new matress going begging and did we want it? I said yes and when I saw her thought I had best say (out of good manners) - 'how much do you want for it?' and she said it had been free with the bed, but £20 would cover it!

[boona]

Well this is the 2nd item she has knitted. The first item was a little jumper, she didnt put a reciept in the bag and I gave her a thankyou card and a lillte box of chocs from M&S. This time she put a reciept in from the wool shop so I am presuming she wants the money and maybe thought the chocs werent enough!

[oscarina]

As she offered to knit the cardigan she was giving it as a gift, the receipt may have been in the bag unintentionally, but just in case it was a hint, give her a gift card for £10 or a donation to her chosen charity!

[sherrardk]

You'll have to sort it out though - she might end up knitting things for you daughter all the time (it'll cost you a small fortune).

[looobylooo]

you say she offered to knit the cardy?
so had you said then at some point how youd like a cardy kintting or something? if so, then ok, give her the £7.

but, if she'd offered off her own back to knit it, then, erm, i think its a bit of cheek to leave the receipt in the bag expecting you to pay the cost! ..
and to me, it should have been a gift to you.. and like you say, youd have bought her a little something to say thank you...

maybe the receipt was left in there by mistake...?

[4getmenot]

yer and you can get decent cardigans for less than that

[boona]

sherrard, you are quiet right! I will have to tell her not to do anymore! Im a single mum and she will cost me a fortune!

[looobylooo]

blimey!! where did all those answers spring from?! lol .... there was only sherrardks there when i started typing ...
ahh mind, id got me eye on the telly too ... well, thats my excuse anyway for being so slow lol

[horseshoes]

It sounds to me as if she has just left the receipt in the bag when she took her wool out. I wouldn't offer the money. Give her the card and chocs and wait to see if she asks for the money, in which case I think it's a bit mean. I know how you must feel though 'cos I would really fret over something like that too!

[boona]

Maybe I should take her a liitle potted plant this time! If she knows I wont be giving her the cash, maybe she wont knitt anything else!

[tamborine]

If you pay her she might knit another & expect payment. Chocs & card should suffice.

[4getmenot]

yep card and gift and just say nicely 'they are lovely but dont make any more it must be costing' then if she does its her own fault.

[boona]

Thanks all, card and gift it is then!

[boxtops]

I think that's the right thing to do - she offered. If she didn't make it clear and does ask for the money when you give her the card and chocs, then because it wasn't clear I think you'd feel you have to pay up with good grace, but don't let her make anything else..!