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Internet lie
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A month or so ago, a male mate of mine finally gave in to urging from other friends to try Internet dating. They also advised him to alter certain facts about himself in order to throw stalker-types off his scent (apparently there are quite a lot on those sites). Thing is that included knocking 5 years off his age, which they told him was common practice and, to be fair, he does look at least 5 years younger than he actually is (50). Anyway, it wasn't long before he encountered someone who he already considers rather special, and it looks to be going rather well between them. But she is 36 and thinks he is 45. Now he's torn between fessing up before she finds out, or hoping he gets away with it for as long as he can. He fears she'll give him the elbow for lying, though it's possible she may have knocked a few years off her own age. I'm not sure what I would do if I found out - cos he's my mate I can't imagine. I'd be interested to hear what other female subscribers would do, and what you feel he should do?
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I'd come clean if I were him, and if she ditches him, then not fib about it in future. I don't see what difference it makes. When I was single (a few years back, not in my youth) I went out with guys who didn't know how old I was (and I never said), and when they discovered I was a bit older than I looked, they said it didn't matter at all, they already knew me. I hope it's the same for your mate. Let us know how he gets on!
I've used dating sites and it bugs me how people think it's okay to lie about their age, height, situation..
I hope he's learned a lesson. I wouldn't believe that tale about throwing off stalkers. he lied about his age to hook a younger woman, and let's hope she won't mind that he's a liar.. and doubt other things he's told her.
I hope he's learned a lesson. I wouldn't believe that tale about throwing off stalkers. he lied about his age to hook a younger woman, and let's hope she won't mind that he's a liar.. and doubt other things he's told her.
sorry, I should have explained better. The anti-stalker thing was mainly lying about where he lived, what he did for a living, etc. His mates told him it was normal to lie about his age, though Ithink that was supposed to also confuse people as to his true identity. He's not famous or anything like that; he just didn't want people he knew seeing him on a dating site and taking the mick
So the anti-stalker thing was lying about where he lived, what he did for a living etc, and the age thing is something everyone does? I have done a fair bit of internet dating over the past six years, if I met someone, liked them, but found out (either on the first date or at a later date) that they did not live where they said or work in the job they had said, or were five years older than their profile, I'd chuck it in. Sorry.
