I feel so very stupid!

[osh]

Hello All,

I just wanted to post a follow up to my question about a cheating girlfriend from earlier in the week. Cheers for your responses.

After some very careful thought I decided I still loved my girlfriend, and wanted to be with her and that I could trust her. She told me that she had definitely told her other bloke that it was over and that she wanted to be with me, that she was sorry for cheating, and that she wanted things to be like they were originally.

Anyway, we had a afternoon together today, and I suggested we do something next weekend, She said "sorry, I'm actually going to London for a friend of a friends birthday" (it is someone I know and have met once or twice, but don't know well).

However - She described what she is doing, and It is something I know she organised with her other bloke (it is actually one of his friends birthday!, she does not know I know this)

So - she lied to me and said she was not going to cheat on me, she lied and said it was over with the other man, and she lied about what she is doing next weekend.

Anyway, lesson learnt, I have now removed her from my life, and am going to move on.

This is not really a question, more of a statement (I know that often you never find out how things end on here - so I thought I would let you know - and it helps me get is off my chest!)

Here are a couple of questions I will answer -

Am I an IDIOT? YES!!!

Will I listen to other AB'ers more often? YES!!!!!!!!

[chicklin]

Maybe I'm being a bit pedantic here, and I know I didn't see your other post, but as I read it here - she was going to 'a friend of a friends birthday.'... you say its actually this ex-bloke's friend. But is that not 'a friend of a friend' ? If it is then she wasn't lying. Or am I completely wrong?

[osh]

I see your point, but (naming no names) she said a male friend of friends name, and I know the party is for a woman.

and I know there is no over lap between the two groups (who she said, and whos birthday it actually is (well 95% sure))

[ummmm]

Now take the other girl out and have lot's of fun xxxx

[MrBen5]

I told you so. But nobody ever listens to me...

[osh]

yes I know - I think almost all the previous answers said move on!! but i thought i new her better.

From now on if you look up Idiot / fool / moron / etc, in the dictionary, and there is a pic of me!

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, i looked up sucker too and you was there.lol. only joking mate. Hey, you will get over it quick enough. Just think of the bad things she did. Get yourself out and have a few beers watching footy or something. Or get some action films in and watch them. As long as your occupied you will move on. Just remember, not all girls are like that. There are some genuine, honest ones around. Its just that they are all taken...

[Captain Swab]

Nah i don't think you are an idiot bud, at least you worked it all out in your head as to what the scheming ****** was up to. Best got rid of, good luck in the future!!

[chicklin]

Well I'm still muddled but what the hell! Whatever went on you're not an idiot, you're no different from the rest of us. We've all done silly things in the name of love. Don't let it put you off trying again tho' , we're not all the same - there are some decent girlies about!

[osh]

Hi Chicklin, don't be confused.

This is a follow up, most of the info was in the first question. However here is a summary.

Basically, girl cheats on boy, boy finds out and breakup occurs. Girl says sorry, and wants boy back - says no more cheating.

Boy says ok, but finds out girl lies through teeth, so cuts his losses, and decides to move on!

Any single, mid 20's, women in midlands area on here??!?! (who are not mad and going to screw me over!??!?!)

[ummmm]

how about uping the age limit?

[chicklin]

Ah-ha! now I'm with ya! Sounds like you did the right thing there then. Now about that age limit........tis a tad low for me to squeeze in under. Ok, its WAY too low.. never mind..one day my prince will come.

[oldwoman]

Stupid Boy .

[sam100]

Shame your not in Somerset Osh!!!!lol

Dont think your an idiot either at least now you can move on once and for all!

Go out an have a laugh and someone will come along when u least expect it as they say...were not all bad!!!

Good luck and thanks for letting us know the outcome.x

[888sally888]

We are all idiots many times - go out and have FUN!!

[jno]

don't beat yourself up; you behaved decently and trusted someone. If she wasn't worth it, bad luck, but it's her loss: she's behaved badly, not you. Don't go mistrusting others on her account.

[lilynmax]

you have absolutely done the right thing - my husband and I have been on that rollercoaster for about two years now - once you start to distrust someone you never really get over it - something it's taken me a long time to realise!! Well done and hope you have a really wonderful time finding miss right!