First Date!

[barclay]

I met this guy who is a friend of a friend. Anyway I ended up getting his number, but I decided to wait to txt him. I then found out from my friend that he had asked about me and said I hadnt txt him yet. So i plucked up the courage and just txt him, we txt back and fourth for a bit then he asked me out on a date.

The date went really well, we went to the cinema, we chatted and had a laugh and through the film we were kinda leaning on each other. Afterwards we went for a drive then he took me home. We sat outside for a bit, we spoke about it being a bit awkward first date and all that. But he did go in for the kiss! It was really nice and I thought there was a bit of a spark there. As I was leaving I said I had fun and we should maybe meet up again! He said keep in touch!, anyway, such a long strory but I just wanted to know. What anyone thought? I still havent heard from him yet and its been five days. I dont want to txt him, cause he knows I like him, and I dont want to pressure him into a second date. I am just not sure if he likes me, or if he was just being polite on this date? When I got in to my house I was really hoping for a nice txt from him just saying he had a nice time and that he might want to meet up again. But I got nothing, and now I have talked myself into him not really liking me. What are guys thinking after a first date?

[bobtheturkey]

he might be thinking along the same lines you are hence neither of you text

[kazzianne]

personally,I would txt him and say sorry that you hadnt been in touch as you had been busy(that way it sounds as though you havent been thinking about him too much!!) and then ask if he fancies doing it again sometime.If he says he's busy at work,has to check his diary etc then its a no-no.If he says "yes ,when?" then you're in!!

[dot.hawkes]

is this national complicated-relationship day?

[madham]

Barclay - I say you go girl, get texting him, if he likes you he will be pleased to hear from you and if not and he doesn't reply you have an answer nothing to lose. Let us know how it goes.

[helliebobs]

The thing is barclay, you say you don't want tot ext him because he knows you like him, but does he really?

He's probably having the exact same thoughts as you are and is just as nervous about making the first move?

I'd say be brave ad go ahead and text him - you've got nothing to lose! And if he doesn't reply or doesn't feel the same way, sod him and move on!

Mind you, I'm married and so glad I don't have to do stuff like this anymore so it's very easy for me to say all that! When I was single I did wish I had more guts so that's what I'd like to do in this sort of situation!

[bobtheturkey]

dorothy are you not impressed at my caring attitude tonight?

[country_boy]

I agree with Kazzianne or send him a text asking if his phone is broken, I once was in a similar situation and thought it was funny and quite sweet and also let me know the person was still interested.

[SaxyJag]

The most important thing, I think, is to let him know you like him. You don't have to go overboard, but there's the possibility he thinks maybe you don't like him. And if you don't tell him, he won't know.

You could text him and ask whether he wants to go out again, and say you like him but you'll understand if he doesn't want to, and that you'd just like to know where you stand. If he doesn't want to, well, I know it's an easy thing to say, but you'll get over it and better to know now than when you've really fallen for him.

[mycats]

Go for it text him! I would say what kazzianne said. BUT only text him once, if he doesn't reply dont chase him. And Bob -I'm impressed lol!

[dot.hawkes]

very impressive as usual Bob dear

[angie26]

Maybe he's really shy, after all you had to txt him in the first place,and you knew that he liked you then.

Why not txt him again and say, have'nt heard from you since the cinema, hope your ok, and see if you get a reply.

[bobtheturkey]

mycats there is always a simple answer :)

[jon1968]

Oh FFS, just send him a text saying something like...

�Thanks for the other night - I had a great time�

....and leave it at that���.his reply or lack thereof will give you a clue.

Good luck.

[barclay]

Thanks guys that has really helped me out. You are all very sweet. I do want to txt him, but I hate rejection ( dont we all ) Plus I dont want to seem to keen, I know how guys that. I just got some nice vibes off him on our date, but because he hasnt txt me I think he really isnt that interested.I really wish I knew what men were thinking.

[jon1968]

Barclay, we�re very simple creatures!
He�s probably just as shy or nervous as you - just send a non committal text and see what happens!

All the best, hope it goes well.

[Rubyrose]

Firstly you have to remember that guys have a totally different time scale to girls so he may think he is leaving the right amount of time whilst you are sitting there analysing every done action on the date! Secondly.. don't analyse! It doesn't help! It gets you no-where and you will only make yourself even more worried about it.

If I were you I think I would send him one text message, not mentioning going for another date but saying something like 'Thanks for last week. It was fun. I hope all is well with you.'.. This way you aren't putting pressure on him and its been left open so he can reply. You shouldn't ask a question coz then he will feel obliged to reply and if he doesn't then you will feel even worse. Remember to leave it at suggestive like 'I hope you have had a good week' but not say 'have you had a good week?'.. coz this way if you don't hear from him, you will feel rejected! If he doesn't text back after you send the suggestive message then leave it. Remember that if a man wants you nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you then nothing can make him stay!

xx

[kazzianne]

txt him!!! we're all waiting to know what happens!! lol

[dot.hawkes]

no ring him, it will be quicker cos u'll know staright away and we can all settle in to the hour long corrie not having to worry about it,

[mycats]

So what happened then barclay??

[barclay]

Well people, I did txt him last night. And he did reply, he said he had a good weekend and asked what I had been up to? I sent a nice breezy msg back, saying mine was good too and asking if he was up to anything exciting this week. He said he was having a quiet week and he was pretty skint. I replyed with I dont have much on so far. And it was left like that. So From those msgs he didnt ask me out, and I didnt want to ask him. I gave him a chance to ask me out again and he didnt take it, so from that I definately think he is not interested in me!

Its a bit of a shame cause he was v nice, but hey what can you do!! Thanks for the advice. xx