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half a year ago, my boyfriend was attacked by a boy as he was leaving a kebab shop. he turned around and was headbutted, following in him being beaten up, he received a lot of bruising to the face. he did not press charges.
two weeks ago, the attackers mother confronted my boyfriend while he was out on a saturday night. she verbally abused him and they began to argue as he was tellign her to leave him alone. the son (the previous attacker) then came out of nowhere and started punching him again, his mother then went on to hold my boyfriend back as the boy continued to beat him. my boyfriend fell to the floor, where the mother scratched his face and attempted to gauge his eye out, whilst the boy continued to punch him.
following this, my boyfriend returned home and told me what happened. i got so upset by it that i went to confront this boy. i walked up to him and shouted at him asking why he had done this to my boyfriend. and then i hit him once. he stood up, by this time i had pulled back and he smacked me full on in the face, breaking my nose, giving my a black eye and nerve damage in my teeth. him and his friends fled the scene.
i explained the situation to the police and because i had hit him first and his friends backed him up (aren't they considered biased wintesses?) and said that he was acting in self defence (which i know he wasnt) and didnt know i was a girl (which he most definitely did because i shouted at him and he had time to look at me) i was given a caution and he was treated as the victim! (receiving no injuries whatsoever)
i just want to know where i stand? this cant be right? please help.
two weeks ago, the attackers mother confronted my boyfriend while he was out on a saturday night. she verbally abused him and they began to argue as he was tellign her to leave him alone. the son (the previous attacker) then came out of nowhere and started punching him again, his mother then went on to hold my boyfriend back as the boy continued to beat him. my boyfriend fell to the floor, where the mother scratched his face and attempted to gauge his eye out, whilst the boy continued to punch him.
following this, my boyfriend returned home and told me what happened. i got so upset by it that i went to confront this boy. i walked up to him and shouted at him asking why he had done this to my boyfriend. and then i hit him once. he stood up, by this time i had pulled back and he smacked me full on in the face, breaking my nose, giving my a black eye and nerve damage in my teeth. him and his friends fled the scene.
i explained the situation to the police and because i had hit him first and his friends backed him up (aren't they considered biased wintesses?) and said that he was acting in self defence (which i know he wasnt) and didnt know i was a girl (which he most definitely did because i shouted at him and he had time to look at me) i was given a caution and he was treated as the victim! (receiving no injuries whatsoever)
i just want to know where i stand? this cant be right? please help.
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Sleephead - you made three mistakes!
1 You confronted the little sh... er darling. You should NOT have done so!
2 You hit him first. You should not have done so!
3 You did it in front of witnesses. You should not have done so!
If I may suggest, if you need to confront the attacker, make sure he's alone! After all, he's a coward, mummy has to help him!...
1 You confronted the little sh... er darling. You should NOT have done so!
2 You hit him first. You should not have done so!
3 You did it in front of witnesses. You should not have done so!
If I may suggest, if you need to confront the attacker, make sure he's alone! After all, he's a coward, mummy has to help him!...
11:43 Tue 21st Jun 2011
IMO
It may seem unfair in the larger picture, but put yourself in the shoes of those trying to keep order. Your confrontation was a new incident in which you gave the first blow. The law isn't keen on folk taking the law into their own hands, it means they lose all control, so you are the perpetrator in that incident, the guy you had a grievance with and who defended himself (or retaliated maybe) is the victim for this incident. You got let off with a caution. The police couldn't really do much more.
You should let that go and concentrate on the earlier incidents where your 'opponents' seem to be the ones in the wrong, and let the law take its course.
It may seem unfair in the larger picture, but put yourself in the shoes of those trying to keep order. Your confrontation was a new incident in which you gave the first blow. The law isn't keen on folk taking the law into their own hands, it means they lose all control, so you are the perpetrator in that incident, the guy you had a grievance with and who defended himself (or retaliated maybe) is the victim for this incident. You got let off with a caution. The police couldn't really do much more.
You should let that go and concentrate on the earlier incidents where your 'opponents' seem to be the ones in the wrong, and let the law take its course.
"my friends also overheard the mother boating about gauging his eye out. could this be used?"
No expert but maybe. I think the value of such testimony may be limited since your friends are hardly unbiased, and just because someone boasts of something doesn't automatically mean it is so. You need independent witnesses I think.
No expert but maybe. I think the value of such testimony may be limited since your friends are hardly unbiased, and just because someone boasts of something doesn't automatically mean it is so. You need independent witnesses I think.
Sleephead - you made three mistakes!
1 You confronted the little sh... er darling. You should NOT have done so!
2 You hit him first. You should not have done so!
3 You did it in front of witnesses. You should not have done so!
If I may suggest, if you need to confront the attacker, make sure he's alone! After all, he's a coward, mummy has to help him! And if you do hit him, hoof him in the taters first!
Not that I wish to encourage any untoward behaviour of course!
I hope you get this sorted out, and the bully gets what he so richly deserves!
1 You confronted the little sh... er darling. You should NOT have done so!
2 You hit him first. You should not have done so!
3 You did it in front of witnesses. You should not have done so!
If I may suggest, if you need to confront the attacker, make sure he's alone! After all, he's a coward, mummy has to help him! And if you do hit him, hoof him in the taters first!
Not that I wish to encourage any untoward behaviour of course!
I hope you get this sorted out, and the bully gets what he so richly deserves!
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