Revenge?

[flashpig]

I broke up with my ex-girlfriend last August, but she just doesn't seem to want to leave me alone! She keeps bogarting all my friends as well as my family. I told my family I think this is weird, so they have left her alone, but she keeps on keeping in contact with my best friend. Not only this, but trying to make me look bad to her. I heard from my sister a few weeks back that my ex had been flirting with my said best friends boyfriend at a club.
I didn't find this strange because she keeps on telling me about all of my friends trying to pull her / her planning to go out with my friends. It's not really my business and I couldn't care less (apart from making it more difficult to keep some distance from me and herself), but trying to pull someones boyfriend is not a nice thing, so I asked her (my ex, not my best friend because if it was untrue it would just cause trouble) about it.
Well, you can expect I felt a bit miffed when my friend gets back to me telling me off for spreading rumours, when I have done nothing of the sort. Why does my friend instantly take my ex's side? Why does my ex keep in such close contact with my best friend who she never really saw when we were going out (to the point of staying round my best friends house, who she shares with my current girlfriend, which is pretty upsetting)? How do I not lose my friends? Is there any way of stopping all of this from happening while still keeping my distance from it, I don't want to get dragged into these silly games?

I'm pretty much fed up with this all and am considering making entirely new friends and ditching the last lot, which would be a shame but would mean all of this stupid nonsense would stop.

[lucyshandbag]

you need to tell your mates you find this uncomfortable, they should understand coz it's fair enough. they're your friends, they should be there for you, not her.  if they carry on like this, they're not really good friends anyway.  i think the ex is a bit of a bunny boiler!!!!!! good luck

[Scarlett]

In my experience the only thing that gets it through to an ex is seeing you with someone else. Then she will know that you have moved on.

[flashpig]

No luck with that one. As I said in my overlong question, she has come to stay with my best friend a few times, who lives with my current girlfriend. Why she would do this I cannot understand, apart from putting strain on my friends and my, and my friends and girlfriends relationship.

God, I hate her.

But they were never great friends before last August. Why now, when it is REALLY ANNOYING?!?

[El D]

never get dragged down to their level mate. No doubt she is playing the games that self obsessed little attention seekers play. Be a perfectly civil, nice, tolerant person. The one thing these people cannot stand is to get no reaction, because it shows how pathetic they have become and they will hate you for it. Rise above it and the real people in your life will respect you for it.

[dirtyharriet]

As they say, the best form of revenge is to move on and get yourself a really happy life, it'll drive her NUTS! Shame you'll be too happy to care ; )

[flip-it]

Do you have a patio ?

Have you seen Brookside ? nuff said.....

[jean88]

you must be showing some kind of feelings(stress,anger etc..) towards her actions. She is still trying to get to you through your friends, if your friends cared about you they should keep a distance from her because they should know you are not comfortable with her around. You should act normal and do the what you do normally and show her that she has no affect on you whatsoever. Dont speak about her to your friends too much, thats what she wants. Maybe your friends dont want to get to involve and maybe they think there are still something going on between you two.Therefore, you think they are on her side and by the sound of it she is better than you at this game. She will move on when she realises that she doesnt affect you no more!! Just play it cool, maybe get some new friends.