Should I try and find my ex

[maisiemoo1]

Hi all

Well the title says it all really, should I try and find my ex.

A little back story

We split up nearly 3 years ago. I had some personal demons that I just couldnt get rid of and was the reason we split.

But nearly 3 years down the line I am still in love with him, I think about him day and night EVERY day.

He was a techno-phobe so no facebook, twitter etc... And we have both moved and got new phone numbers.

There is something I could do which is facebook his mum and hope she passes on the message but the only problem with that is I only met her once (she lives abroad). I could message his sister but she never really took a shine to me as his ex was her best friend.

It's very difficult to explain but he was and still is the love of my life and there has been no one since we split up as I don't want anyone else.

I just don't know what to do.

Any advice would be great.

TIA

[2sp_]

I was in a very similar position to you once.

I met my ex when we were at college, he left after the first year to go to Australia for a year (already arranged and planned before we met). It broke my heart when he left. I pined for him for the year he was away, and when he came back we did meet up to go to a mutual friend's birthday party. I honestly thought we were going to make another go of it, but I lived 60 miles away by that point. He started seeing someone else, who he eventually married and had kids with.

I lived in hope that we would work things out, but it just wasn't to be. I thought about him every day for about 4 years, missing him and loving him in his absence.

Eventually I moved about 200 miles away, met Mr P and 12 years and two kids later I couldn't be happier.

I think it's entirely up to you if you do get in touch via his mum or sister, but if you do be prepared to have your heart broken all over again. He may have moved on and be married with kids himself by now.

Whatever you do, good luck.

[Canary42]

You're living an impossible dream. Stop kidding yourself and get out more - you'll soon find someone new.

[maisiemoo1]

Thanks for the reply 2sp_. I really really want to find him but the only thing I'm worried about is that I've only met his mum once and it seems a bit stalker-ish to actively seek her out lol

[Octavius]

How long were you together ?

[ummmm]

If someone contacted me regarding my kids I'd pass on the message, presuming he's still single.

[Baldric]

Is this the guy you met at 15 and went on to marry?

[maisiemoo1]

No it's not my ex husband (regarding that I did message the old friend and we now keep in contact)

We were together for over 2 years and were head over heels in love but unfortunately me getting involved with a bad crowd ruined my relationship.

Would you ummmm? She does have the nick name news of the world though lol

[Hopkirk]

.... and your brother in law is his best mate.

[ummmm]

Yes, I would pass on a message to my adult child unless they were married or in a relationship, then I wouldn't.

[maisiemoo1]

He was going through a divorce while we together ummm (even though I met the mum once she apparently really liked me, she couldn't stand the ex)

[ummmm]

He could be settled again after 3 years.

[maisiemoo1]

I know that's the dilemma, but then I think what if he isn't. I've got absolutely nothing to lose

[ummmm]

So go for it.

[ummmm]

Sometimes going back is fun ;-)

[Hopkirk]

Prepare for disappointment.

[maisiemoo1]

I'll prep for disappointment but like I said I have absolutely nothing to lose and may gain the love of my life back.

[joko]

you already know what to do.

you have said it yourself - you have nothing to lose, and everything to gain.

if it works out -great, if not, you've lost nothing and you will have a final answer ... you will spend the rest of your life wondering if you dont at least try.