Strands #247 “More Than Just...
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The Dating Game
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After my recent encounter of the creepy kind when meeting a guy from a dating website I decided to jack it in. Then a week or so ago decided I'd paid for 6 months so I might as well use them and reinstated my profile.
Well, of course there was a flurry of interest from the two normal groups of men. Those being the ones twice my age, despite my very clear instruction that those out of a certain age range need not apply. And then the younger ones who appear to struggle to put more than 3 words together coherently.
But this week I had a couple of promising starts. The first being a message from a reasonably attractive guy, in the right age range, living locally and he'd made the effort to introduce himself with a good couple of paragraphs that extended to more than the normal 'how's u?'. So like the good online dater, I looked at his profile, picked out a couple of bits he'd written about himself and replied with a couple of very basic 'nice to meet you, this all seems very interesting' questions. Nothing too taxing or personal, obviously. What do I get back? Three replies, each no longer than a few words. Then I went back and read his very first message to me to realise it appears to be some sort of stock message that he's probably sending to every female within a 10 mile radius. Feeling a little dejected I decided to cut my losses.
Then yesterday, another promising start. A message from another guy who, on the face of it, ticked all the boxes. A couple of simple introductory messages through the evening seemed to prove successful. Until I asked him about his job. Late last night he replied and asked me a question about my job but it didn't make any sense so I asked him to repeat what he meant. This morning I woke up to the response, "I bet you get paid a lot don't you?'. What! Not, do I enjoy it, what does it involve, but how much bloody money do I earn!
Ggggrrrrrrr!
As you can see, there is no question here. I simply needed to vent my frustration.
If you are in a relationship, even if he/she is only half decent, Blinkin keep hold of them. Never never never let them go. It's much easier :)
Well, of course there was a flurry of interest from the two normal groups of men. Those being the ones twice my age, despite my very clear instruction that those out of a certain age range need not apply. And then the younger ones who appear to struggle to put more than 3 words together coherently.
But this week I had a couple of promising starts. The first being a message from a reasonably attractive guy, in the right age range, living locally and he'd made the effort to introduce himself with a good couple of paragraphs that extended to more than the normal 'how's u?'. So like the good online dater, I looked at his profile, picked out a couple of bits he'd written about himself and replied with a couple of very basic 'nice to meet you, this all seems very interesting' questions. Nothing too taxing or personal, obviously. What do I get back? Three replies, each no longer than a few words. Then I went back and read his very first message to me to realise it appears to be some sort of stock message that he's probably sending to every female within a 10 mile radius. Feeling a little dejected I decided to cut my losses.
Then yesterday, another promising start. A message from another guy who, on the face of it, ticked all the boxes. A couple of simple introductory messages through the evening seemed to prove successful. Until I asked him about his job. Late last night he replied and asked me a question about my job but it didn't make any sense so I asked him to repeat what he meant. This morning I woke up to the response, "I bet you get paid a lot don't you?'. What! Not, do I enjoy it, what does it involve, but how much bloody money do I earn!
Ggggrrrrrrr!
As you can see, there is no question here. I simply needed to vent my frustration.
If you are in a relationship, even if he/she is only half decent, Blinkin keep hold of them. Never never never let them go. It's much easier :)
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One of my friends is in a similar situation to you. After sorting through mountains of chaff she found one guy that seemed promising.
After several emails and calls they met for lunch and got on like a house on fire. Several more dates followed, all during the day time only, so she began to suspect he was not single.
When confronted, it turned out he was single, but could not go out on a night as he was tagged and on a curfew. A quick Google revealed he is on bail for rape
After several emails and calls they met for lunch and got on like a house on fire. Several more dates followed, all during the day time only, so she began to suspect he was not single.
When confronted, it turned out he was single, but could not go out on a night as he was tagged and on a curfew. A quick Google revealed he is on bail for rape
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\\\\If you are in a relationship, even if he/she is only half decent, Blinkin keep hold of them. Never never never let them go. It's much easier :) \\\
Excellent advice, certainly a vast improvement on the "dump him" "don't give the sucker a second chance" offered by many of out expert female Abers.............most mainly single single and hitting the "Dating agencies."
\\\\If you are in a relationship, even if he/she is only half decent, Blinkin keep hold of them. Never never never let them go. It's much easier :) \\\
Excellent advice, certainly a vast improvement on the "dump him" "don't give the sucker a second chance" offered by many of out expert female Abers.............most mainly single single and hitting the "Dating agencies."
Evian, I feel your pain. you want someone interested in *you*, and not anyone with a smidge of potential. if you've written an interesting or unusual comment in your profile, hopefully they'll mention it.
if they haven't even bothered reading your profile and showing a genuine interest, they're probably not worth bothering with.
if they haven't even bothered reading your profile and showing a genuine interest, they're probably not worth bothering with.
I do not have personal experience of dating sites, but a few of my friends have found decent fellas on this way, with two of these relationships still going strong.
I've been out with some tw@ts in my time, but I feel lucky to be with my OH, who is great, funny and will do anything for anyone. I've shovelled through the Sugar to get to the gem!
I've been out with some tw@ts in my time, but I feel lucky to be with my OH, who is great, funny and will do anything for anyone. I've shovelled through the Sugar to get to the gem!
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