Is A Court Order The Best Way To Get Out A Violent Partner?

[lifeb4]

If you have read my other post i put on here sometime ago i wrote on here and ask how could i get away from my violent partner, well some time later now i have managed to pluck up the courage and call woman's aid they advised me that i can get a court order out on him to get him out so he can not come near me or the house! but am i dealing with it the right way the solicitor has been in contact and i am in the process of it now but am i doing the right thing? i keep having guilty moments of the fact i am putting out of his home yes he treats me irritably but 2 wrongs don't make a right just need support on this that im doing the right thing does anyone know will they help him when he has been taken out the house?

[Kassee]

I would think you would be better off leaving him. Going into a woman's refuge and then trying to find your own accommodation from there. That way he will not know where you are. If he is violent - do you really want him to know exactly where you are. If he is angry anyway, do you want to make him more angry by putting him out of the house.

I dont know - only you can judge.

[Canary42]

If he's violent to you, he shouldn't just be put out of the house, he should be put in jail.

[boxtops]

There's a big difference between irritable and violent, and his behaviour is violent. Don't make excuses for him, don't start to feel guilty - he brought this on himself.

[ladybirder]

In your position lifeb4, I would never feel safe from a violent man, if he knew where I was. I agree it's best to get out and make a fresh start somewhere else. But of course it becomes more difficult if there are children

[lifeb4]

yeah i have 2 kids so yes that is y i am considering to do it this way if i go to refuge i think it is better on my kids as they take him out when were not there and he cant come near or he gets arrested also the woman's aid are gonna write me a letter to get me moved quickly out the area.

[ladybirder]

Well good luck lifeb4, I hope it works out for you and your children because they shouldn't be brought up with a violent man. Be strong, they need you.