I Will Never Ever Make A Promise Again,

[Jeza]

I broke my promise to mic and called the doctor. Mic is now in hospital and has been for a few days. He is critically ill. The GP and the hospital both gave me a right bollocking. So I now feel........ I don't know how I feel. I should have called them earlier but I promised him. He said he knew he was dying and wanted to be at home, and now the hospital are calling in social services. God what a mess.

[Psybbo]

Oh Jeza, you did the right thing, you did what Mic wanted in spite o yourself, much love we know how torn you were

[Zacs-Master]

You can only follow your heart and what you think is best jeza. I'm sure things will work out. Keep us posted.

[bednobs]

it won't be a mess, it just feels like it now - these people will hopefully help to sort something out so that he can come home in safety (yours and his). You will be able to concentrate on being his wife, not his carer. IMO it was very unfair of him to ask you to promise in the first place

[B00]

Awww Jeza, poor Mic and especially poor you.

Please don't beat yourself up, you were doing the right thing by Mic and respecting his wishes.

My thoughts with you both xxx

[bednobs]

ps we are all dying, none of us know when. It's unreasonable to expect that nothing will change between then and now

[wolf63]

You have done nothing wrong. You love Mic and he loves you and he knows that what you have now done is for the best.

You also have your own health to think of, the last thing that Mic would want is for you to become ill caring for him or worrying about him.

With the most difficult decisions in life there is seldom a "right" or "wrong" answer.

Take care of yourself.

Susan x

[pixie373]

Hi jeza. You held out as long as you could. In all fairness, if he's that ill, anyone would call for help as an emergency. You were struggling anyway, which isn't fair. I have a lot of admiration for you. Please don't be hard on yourself x

[Tilly2]

Jezza, you have been torn in two over this. You have been in a terrible situation and probably feel as if it's all your fault. I'm sure you did your best for as long as you could bare to do it.I can't really say anything to help ypu but I do feel for you.

[Tilly2]

^ bear, damn!

[Mamyalynne]

Oh Jeza my love - whatever route you took there was always going to be 'what ifs'.

I hope they can give you time and privacy together to make the best end possible, you won't know how to feel as all this is very unworldly - I send you both my love and strength.

M ♥

[Prudie]

Jeza nobody will think you did wrong, you had Mic totally at heart - as you do now by having made that call. Hopefully they will help you both, you need a break too and to find some relief in life. Thinking of you.

[Jeza]

I know I did the right thing (in the end) but when I have been to see him and hold his hand he pulls away. He is also refusing food and drink. When they put drips in him he pulls them out. Another bollocking again today from the doc.

[craft1948]

Jeza you've done nothing wrong, everything you've done has been in Mic's best interests and he was wrong to make you promise as he did.
He loves you and he knows you love him.............chin up girl.

[ClaryS]

jeza, I'm new on here and don't know the story but I think anyone in your situation would have done the same thing. Is mic conscious? if he wants to go home there is nothing they can do. The 'authorities' goaded my mother to get my father into hospital but he would not budge and died how he wanted to, in his own bed looking out over his pride and joy, his garden. I feel so annoyed at what you are going through I wish I could help you. I wish you all the best and please don't think you should have called them earlier -your loyalty is to your loved one not the NHS .

[pixie373]

Sorry. A bollocking for what, exactly?

[Jeza]

He is asleep (or is it unconscious) most of the time, probably because he is so week. He can barely speak. When he can manage a word or two it ends in F off .

[Jeza]

Allowing him to get so bad Pixie.

[DJHawkes]

be strong jeza, you're doing your best x

[jim360]

Well that really is unfair. Flak from Mic because you broke a promise you never should have made, and the hospital for taking so long to break it. I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. For what it's worth, I'll be thinking of you at this difficult time.